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This is why it's not good to get married and have kids before establishing a career. But now that all is said and done, I think you guys should get divorced on terms that are as amicable as possible so not as to upset your kids. Why give up on the rest of your life? I'm sure he'd like to have his own life too. There are ways to separate with dignity. The alternative is to stay together and be miserable.
So, let me get this straight, you're too good for your husband. He has the right to say,"I'm married to this uppity, egotistical, self righteous, B**** of a woman." I respect anyman who will put blood sweat and tears into his living, as well as any man who put years into continuing his education and furthering his career. As long as he is providing for the family that he loves. My father has been a plumber for 30, married for 30 years, together they raised 3 wonderful, upstanding daughters. And you're too good for that?! You don't deserve him......I hope you end up with someone just as shallow as you, but let me remind you......."for better or worse,FOR RICHER OR POORER". People just throw the word "divorce" around will nilly these days
I didn't want to sift through all the pages since theres so much, but my advice to the OP. Leave the guy if its really that bad. You should have never got married in the first place. It sounds like it was too young for one thing. I have seen the PA life since I lived there over a yr, and it was boring to me. Some kids did rebel I did notice that and some punkers were there, but on the whole it looked like a mundane existance. One I wouldn't be happy with. Oh and maybe I'd give you a shot . I don't mind older women.
Do you have family or friends who have relatives or spouses who have just drifted apart as their friends, careers and interests evolve? What do they do?
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Originally Posted by DoctorRain
I didn't want to sift through all the pages since theres so much, but my advice to the OP.
Good thought and you kept your reply brief, read the above, the OP wasn't looking for advice. This poster is NOT a MEMBER, hes been Outcast.
Well, while everybody else wants to rip the OP to shreds, I have another viewpoint.
This is a perfect example of why you don't marry somebody straight out of high school or college. You change more in the first five years after finishing your education than you do for the rest of your life.
What's more, you can't just burn up the sheets all the time. Your relationship has to have an intellectual component to it. You have to have something to talk about the morning after the night before. Let me tell you, there's nothing worse than being in a relationship with somebody who can't even begin to share your interests. By that I don't mean you have to fill your days with discussions about Heidegger, Nietzsche, and Schopenhauer, but you need to be able to relate to your significant other in some way.
I'm fortunate that I'm married to a woman who has a great sense of humor and is intellectually curious. She and I have different interests and also share some interests. She and I often disagree on things, but we also have interesting discussions. So with that being said, I simply can't imagine being tethered to someone who just had nothing to say on anything beyond the normal business of life.
Well, while everybody else wants to rip the OP to shreds, I have another viewpoint.
This is a perfect example of why you don't marry somebody straight out of high school or college. You change more in the first five years after finishing your education than you do for the rest of your life.
What's more, you can't just burn up the sheets all the time. Your relationship has to have an intellectual component to it. You have to have something to talk about the morning after the night before. Let me tell you, there's nothing worse than being in a relationship with somebody who can't even begin to share your interests. By that I don't mean you have to fill your days with discussions about Heidegger, Nietzsche, and Schopenhauer, but you need to be able to relate to your significant other in some way.
I'm fortunate that I'm married to a woman who has a great sense of humor and is intellectually curious. She and I have different interests and also share some interests. She and I often disagree on things, but we also have interesting discussions. So with that being said, I simply can't imagine being tethered to someone who just had nothing to say on anything beyond the normal business of life.
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