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Most of a girl's effort into attracting guys goes into looking as best as possible and judicious flirting.
I will say that I do tend to dress more for guys than for girls. I refuse to wear anything that's shapeless, regardless of how fashionable it is. I remember when trapeze dresses came into style (see below) and all the girls were wearing them. Why? They look like tents!
Most of a girl's effort into attracting guys goes into looking as best as possible and judicious flirting.
I will say that I do tend to dress more for guys than for girls. I refuse to wear anything that's shapeless, regardless of how fashionable it is. I remember when trapeze dresses came into style (see below) and all the girls were wearing them. Why? They look like tents!
Yeah, those are so ugly and they look like they are for little girls on Easter Sunday not adult women
I wouldn't say that I have an easy time getting guys. Heck, I rarely ever interact with any men outside of work (which doesn't count because my co-workers aren't really dateable.)
I don't put any effort at all. Never had any problems 'getting' the guy I wanted. The only problem is - I don't ever see anyone I want anymore. Too picky I guess.
Now that I'm single and 50 it's not that easy to date at all, even online. Lots of men look, but few approach, which is fine b/c I'm not ready yet. Or I'll have a situation like the other night--this really handsome man was flirting with me in the grocery store--very obviously--and sure enough, when I got a good look there was a wedding band on his finger.
I can honestly say I have never put in any effort, and this isn't because I am all that and a bag of chips. I am decidedly plain, but for some reason have no issue meeting people and sometimes meeting men that are interested in me. Not sure why, just lucky I guess
Well if we're talking about my current situation then I'd say I suffered more.
That's not to say that MM didn't make an effort because he did, as did I BUT I think it's a testament to my esteem for the bloke that I suffered waxing and a plethora of girlie "treatments" that I usually can't be bothered with, just so I could be at my best to meet up with him. I'm still traumatized by it all, can't you tell? )
(of course all that was ruined by my silly cousin and her late night visit BUT my life's like that I guess. )
In terms of the past I can't say that I've really tried that hard to get a guy. Sure I keep myself neat and I dress up to go out but that's to suit myself really and I'm pretty friendly with everyone unless they're a total tool. Nah, never really had to try.
Honesty moment: Ok When I was younger (think early 20's & late teens) yes, I did put quite a bit of effort into getting guys to be attracted and have feelings for me so I was a lot more aggressive which was ultimately a result of desperation and a lot self-esteem issues. As I got older, I have learned to deal with that as it caused me a lot of unnecessary heartache and made me feel even more unworthy, which is not what I would wish upon any woman. Fast forward to today and I have become a lot more passive on the dating scene. Now I'm like screw that bull sh*t!!! Let THE MAN work hard to be with me!! If a man wants to be with you, he will fully pursue you and with gusto & swagger might I add.
You don't have to be pushy or approach the man and make a move....
You don't have to dress all sexy and revealing....
Out of all the years of experience of 3 sisters and 12 years of marriage....it's all about just being there in the area.
Yeah...seriously.
When you make yourself available...being there he will notice you. Make him feel like he saw you first. Make him feel like he pursued you.
Everyone knows that women are much more in tune with the surroundings then men are.
If you see a nice looking guy go shop by him. Make it a somehow happen that the two of you meet up on the same isle at the supermarket. That you happen to be in the same checkout lane.
If...and I say IF...he is interested in you...he will make some sort of conversation with you. That's how it works. Men are suppose to be the one taking the lead but some are not that good at catching the eye of some and making the move.
Ladies you do need to do work but make it so it seems he is the one who is working.
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