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When men are addressed by women with these terms, it's folksy and endearing.
When women are addressed by men with these terms, it's patronizing and condescending.
Why is that?
This according to who? I think everyone likes to hear a term of endearment from their significant other. I know I do. If my s/o called me by my name it either because we are in or about to have an argument or I'm across the store looking at something or some other out of the norm situation. I rarely hear my name
Outside of a relationship I think it just weird to call someone by those kind of terms. Unless you are an geriatric southern lady.
This according to who? I think everyone likes to hear a term of endearment from their significant other. I know I do. If my s/o called me by my name it either because we are in or about to have an argument or I'm across the store looking at something or some other out of the norm situation. I rarely hear my name
Outside of a relationship I think it just weird to call someone by those kind of terms. Unless you are an geriatric southern lady.
This is precisely the kind of situation to which the argument refers. There is no objection on my part to these terms being used among family, friends or SO's. As it is, I do think females are generally accorded more liberty with respect to addressing strangers with these terms than men.
LOL. Ive never really thought about it, but youre right. I dont like for any woman other than the Mrs. to address me with any of those terms. I would not allow it.
How about from DD, the malinkaya deragoya (when she´s old enough to speak)?
I grew up in a household where our parents called us by our names and no terms of endearment. Lots of hugs and kisses, but no lovey-dovey names.
I can't stand when I'm in a public place and either a man or woman is calling me "Honey" or "Sweetie" and we're doing a transaction that involves money. When did you become my relative? This is not your money...it's mine til I give it to you...
I can see a older white-haired waitress calling me "Hon" or "Sweets" but no one else. We can talk politely to each other without saying those terms, especially if it's the first time we've ever met. I tend to subconsciously block out what the other person is saying if their conversation is littered with,"Honey, Babe, Sweetie."
When men are addressed by women with these terms, it's folksy and endearing.
When women are addressed by men with these terms, it's patronizing and condescending.
Why is that?
DANG, and my husband has never mentioned that I'm apparently being "patronizing and condescending" Oh wait, maybe HE doesn't feel that way when I use those terms? Maybe some men actually DO find these terms endearing even though you don't
DANG, and my husband has never mentioned that I'm apparently being "patronizing and condescending" Oh wait, maybe HE doesn't feel that way when I use those terms? Maybe some men actually DO find these terms endearing even though you don't
Again, I'm not talking about those in intimate or familiar relationships.
I bought a car from the local dealership and the sales guy honey'd and baby'd me to death. I was so sick of it. I don't think he ever said my name. This was 3 days dealing with him. I really started to hate him.
The next year I went back to buy another car and the other sales guy started with the same crap. I told him if he called me his honey one more time I would buy my car elsewhere.
That was the end of the honey.
Good for you, keeperk! It is totally inappropriate in a business situation. In your shoes, I would've said the same thing to that salesman.
On the other hand, when my bf calls me "Darling" or "Sweetheart," it melts me completely.
By the way, this is a little off topic, but once when I was shopping for a new car, the salesman actually asked me if I had my husband's permission to purchase a car without him there. Geez, is this the 1950s? I couldn't believe he asked me that. I turned on my heel and walked away. Purchased a car at a place with a more respectful sales person. (I'm single, by the way, but didn't bother telling him that.)
I found it more insulting when a real estate sales guy asked what I did, I said SAHM and he said "good! that's what a woman should do, be at home with the kids, and keep out of the work place where men belong!" we didn't buy a house thru him! lol
My great grandma called everyone doll baby, and all of us grand kids call each other and our children that.
He calls me "love or Hey You" and I call him "Mr. Snuffles or baby" but I sometimes call our kids sweetie or hon.
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Oh wait, maybe HE doesn't feel that way when I use those terms? Maybe some men actually DO find these terms endearing even though you don't 
