Men would you date a divorced mom? (mistress, family, sex)
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Oh come on, lets not bury our head in the sand and pretend not to see this. The OP mentioned that the kids are of difference race (black) and they are very young. How many very white women do you know with two very young kids by a black dude who is also having problems finding a date, is in tip top shape physically? I mean come on. Sure the OP said nothing about what she looks like, but in all actuality, she probably is still carrying around a bit of that babyfat unless she's an avid fitness buff, which I seriously doubt.
I thought you were talking about someone else actually, LOL, but anyways I know plenty of people who bounce right back after pregnancy. Especially if you're young. I don't really know how the race of her kids factor into it tho, but whatev.
I feel like I just walked into the middle of a conversation in a high school cafeteria.
Maturity in men occurs when the attain humility. Yes, by all means, do not under any circumstances date women with kids. Spare them the waste of time so they can weed out real men who can unselfishly share happiness, love and fulfillment.
Just keep doing what you're doing...."da' ladies" will be lining up for you dude!
By the way, what happened to number three? Oh, I know, I know. You dumped her because she wasn't meeting your "requirements", and she, helas, was plunged into such dejection, that she suicided herself, the poor girl.
Actually, #3 asked if I was dating other women and when I was honest, she decided that she didn't want to date me. We're still friends though. To be honest, two is enough for me. You can take one out Saturday and the other Friday. Beyond that it gets... complicated. For me, anyway.
Her race would not make any difference to me. Her having childred would make some difference, how she handles these children and reacted to them would make a big difference. The fact that she was the one that filed for divorce, and the only reason was she was unhappy and not working on keeping her marriage together is reason enough to drop her like a hot potato. Once I found out her history, I wouldn't date her, even if she had the most beautiful face and body a woman could possess, or if she went out of her way to show me that she was available and a willing participant in a one nite stand.
The fact that she was the one that filed for divorce, and the only reason was she was unhappy and not working on keeping her marriage together is reason enough to drop her like a hot potato.
What about the reasons she was unhappy? The person who files for divorce isn't the only one responsible for keeping the marriage together.
Thanks for the honesty on the subject. I'm a newly single mom of 2. If I was a young guy with no kids I don't think I'd date a divorced mother either when there are other options. I do personally know some men (some with kids and some without) that ended up marrying single mothers and they are awesome step dads. I really don't care if I meet anyone or not because I'm happy with my life in general. But at least I know that there are decent men out there, even if few and far between.
Why do women only start looking for decent men when they are divorced (or never married) with 2 kids?
I'm constantly amazed at what they will put up with until they have the kids and the reality of their situation sets in, Then they really need a decent man. However, your post seems to imply that "decent men" - if they are decent - will jump at the opportunity to marry a single mother with 2 kids. I don't buy that.
Why do women only start looking for decent men when they are divorced (or never married) with 2 kids?
I'm constantly amazed at what they will put up with until they have the kids and the reality of their situation sets in, Then they really need a decent man. However, your post seems to imply that "decent men" - if they are decent - will jump at the opportunity to marry a single mother with 2 kids. I don't buy that.
I do have some female acquaintances who admitted that during the time they got pregnant, that they dated the irresponsible type of men because they were attracted to the bravado and swagger.
And that at present they are looking for a more stable guy as a companion and husband.
Its not the kids, but that they have gotten tired of choosing men who treated them badly.
And some of those choices led them to become pregnant.
And she cannot force the father to be there.
A long time friend of mine just had her daughter.
And honestly even though I do not want to raise any children, when she brought up the question of she and I getting together/why we never dated... I really cannot say that i would not change my views on that.
Mainly because she has pretty much all the qualities I am looking for.
Kind of confusing actually.
I'm off to watch the Blue Gender series.... Night all.
well i am a young man so no. i would want a fresh start with a woman who hasnt had kids or been married.. not to mention another man in the picture
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