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My father died at 53 (cancer) and my mother lived to 90...At 68 I don't know how much time I have left,
mainly I don't want to be a burden to myself or anyone else....
Keep in mind, there's always Dignitas in Switzerland, the most liberal physician's assisted suicide clinic in the world now, where you need not be terminally ill for their "services". There, you can say: I've been suffering from depression all my life, let's end it! And they'll end it for you, to the tune of $5850 + your one way ticket over there.
How do I know the price? I had a health crisis, last March, and in a panic, I contacted them! I was ready to fly over there and end the pain!
There's now VT, OR, MT & WA, for assisted suicide, but you need to be terminally ill. And there's a number of states that will be voting on it this coming 2016 election.
And you can always come to my place. Ever heard the phrase "scared to death"? I'm real good at that! LoL!
I only desire to live to 90-100 because I currently have NO grandchildren and since I have 4 children; I am trying to wait around to see if any Grandchildren turn up. Adoption is ok too. I am in decent health, as is my spouse. So far.
If you wait till 100 to get grandchildren, I think your adult kids may be past childbearing age? Unless they turn to be like the woman in her 60s who had multiples?
If you wait till 100 to get grandchildren, I think your adult kids may be past childbearing age? Unless they turn to be like the woman in her 60s who had multiples?
I have 3 siblings. We all have 2 or more kids (11 total) and most are in their 20s (we all had kids a little on the late side). None of them has kids yet but 2 are married and it seems likely that there will be at least one grand-child/niece/nephew within a couple of years. We are all chomping at the bit; whoever is first will hit the lottery at Christmas.
Since childhood I've had a phlegmatic, dour, pessimistic outlook. It was never (or rarely) "woe is me!" self-pity, but rather, a wistful regret that I was ever born and consequently saddled with the burden of living.
Over the past several decades, I've achieved a smattering of things, none perhaps of any lasting substance, but at least enough to be referenced here and there. These compositions are my "children", and in my more boastful and self-aggrandizing moments, I fancy that occasionally these works will be referenced decades (centuries?) after I'm dead.
Life has been a compulsive drive to amount to something, to forge ahead. Though younger than most here, recently I've felt less such drive. Having no family and essentially no relatives (however distant) remaining alive, the remainder is… optional. I'm not about to fire up my cars in a sealed garage, taking one last inhalation. That's facile melodrama. But neither am I enthused about becoming a weathered codger puttering in the garden, or the elder statesman plopped in an armchair, swimming in the suit-jacket that he decades ago used to tightly fill.
I desire to live long enough to gracefully conclude the various projects still afoot. But I don't aim for dogged shaking of the fist at the thunderclap, daring it to unleash its worst. It's difficult to grow wise, even with age. But if I can aspire towards any shard of wisdom, it's the prickly one about knowing one's limitations.
By the time I reach 100, I probably will not remember any of the people singing happy birthday. Most likely I won't know that it's my birthday and that I'm 100.
By the time I reach 100, I probably will not remember any of the people singing happy birthday. Most likely I won't know that it's my birthday and that I'm 100.
I chose not beyond 90 no matter what, but actually I think 85 would be a good age to go. Beyond that I will probably become feeble and have trouble "performing the activities of daily living," as they say. But as long as I still have all my marbles and am capable of living independently, I'll stick around.
My wife is 86 and I am 84, both in excellent health, so we don't think that is a good age to go.
My grandmothers lived to just months short of 100, and my mother lived to 98. Grandfathers almost as old. My father died at 65 due to cancer, which was harder to save people from dying from cancer 40 years ago.
We have lost 2 of our 5 children. One son from spinal meningitis (the third time he was infected with this). One daughter due to lung failure, with lung problems caused by sleep apnea. And it is hard outliving your children.
My wife is 86 and I am 84, both in excellent health, so we don't think that is a good age to go.
My grandmothers lived to just months short of 100, and my mother lived to 98. Grandfathers almost as old. My father died at 65 due to cancer, which was harder to save people from dying from cancer 40 years ago.
We have lost 2 of our 5 children. One son from spinal meningitis (the third time he was infected with this). One daughter due to lung failure, with lung problems caused by sleep apnea. And it is hard outliving your children.
Sorry for your losses, that has to be the hardest thing ever (I have outlived one of my children, who died at 2). It does sound like you and your wife are good candidates for reaching at least 100. Would love to know your longevity secrets (tell me it's wine).
My wife is 86 and I am 84, both in excellent health, so we don't think that is a good age to go.
My grandmothers lived to just months short of 100, and my mother lived to 98. Grandfathers almost as old. My father died at 65 due to cancer, which was harder to save people from dying from cancer 40 years ago.
We have lost 2 of our 5 children. One son from spinal meningitis (the third time he was infected with this). One daughter due to lung failure, with lung problems caused by sleep apnea. And it is hard outliving your children.
I would also like to offer my condolences to you and your wife. Losing one child is bad enough, but you have lost two. Such heartache.
God bless you.
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