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Old 06-04-2014, 03:54 PM
 
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Hey all. I'm looking for advice so I can have a better chance at finding love(who isn't).

A little bit about me, well, I'm 36 but I do look like I'm in my early 20's. I've been working out since January, so I'm in good shape. White. Six feet tall. Not saying that I'm a model or anything close to that, but I don't think I'm terrible looking.

Anyways, the reason I want to start pursuing women who are around 18, is that I really I don't get along women who are around my age. I find them to be honestly looking for a guy with money than someone who actually wants to get to know you for who you are first.

So my question would be, where would be a good place to start conversation? I'm attending community college now, but even approaching women in that type of setting, they still are a little stand offish. Is there any particular location that might be better? I find it hard to believe that the mall might be the best option.

Any advice from the guys would be great. How to dress?
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Old 06-04-2014, 04:09 PM
 
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Yeah, no.
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Old 06-04-2014, 04:15 PM
 
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The high schools
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Old 06-04-2014, 04:22 PM
 
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Old 06-04-2014, 04:43 PM
 
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Old 06-04-2014, 04:46 PM
 
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Okay, well just to clarify, In my dating experience, the friendliest time period I ever found the opposite sex was around then. Granted, I do have severe social anxiety issues and trouble picking up visual and audio clues as well. But as I've gotten older, I've learned to deal with those problems, and recognize them for what they are. Unfortunately, as I said before, approach wise that demographic at least for me tends to be the most friendliest. It honestly feels that for women around my age, they've kinda moved on. Which of course, does suck.

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Old 06-04-2014, 04:48 PM
 
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Really? I found that most people around that age actually aren't into sweets that much. I know I lost my taste for sugary crap around 16 or so. LOL.
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Old 06-04-2014, 04:50 PM
 
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Every 18 year old loves older men so make sure you walk around without a shirt. 36 and in community college? Is this a second degree or the first one? I received my masters at 33.
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Old 06-04-2014, 05:00 PM
 
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Every 18 year old loves older men so make sure you walk around without a shirt. 36 and in community college? Is this a second degree or the first one? I received my masters at 33.
Well I'm actually getting there. Should be pretty buff by the end of the year. LOL.

No. Like I said, I have severe social anxiety and possibly aspergers, though I'm not really sure. My parents divorced when i was younger, and I moved around a lot as a kid. I grew up poor, and never really attached to anyone except my immediate family. Unfortunately, my mom went crazy when she turned 40, and my dad turned to tweek around the same time. I kinda lost it during my 20's, and just worked a variety of temp jobs until I got full time employment around 26 with a satellite installation company.

I honestly thought that would be the career I always longed for, or at least something stable, but I hurt my lower back when I turned 30. Nothing says turning 30 like having back spasms. LOL. Anyways, at the advice of my fellow sibling, I decided to go back and see if I could get my Bachelors in English. Oops, I'm telling everyone my life story now.
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Old 06-04-2014, 05:09 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Anyways, the reason I want to start pursuing women who are around 18, is that I really I don't get along women who are around my age. I find them to be honestly looking for a guy with money than someone who actually wants to get to know you for who you are first.
It's cute that you think an 18-year-old woman willing to date a man twice her age isn't looking for a sugar daddy.
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