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I'm 27 years old, 5'11", and Ivy League educated. When I was 20, I was approached by an agency to be a fashion model. Right now I work in one of the most prestigious law firms in DC, but somehow I can't find a boyfriend despite having lived here for the past two years and trying really hard. I've dated guys who are unemployed, who went to community college, and I've even dated guys who are a couple of inches shorter than me. So it's not like I have high standards.
Whenever I go up to NYC, I get much more attention and get hit on more often. Heck, one of the most common pick-up lines I get from guys in NYC is "Are you a model?" or that I'm the most beautiful Asian woman they've ever seen. Even though I don't like pick-up lines, it's still really nice to hear that when I feel so undesirable and undervalued in DC.
Somehow, whenever I go out here in DC, not a single guy would hit on me. Or rather, the only men who would approach me are black guys or really old and sketchy white guys. Often times, the type of guys that I prefer (preppy and athletic) would check me out from the corner of their eyes but not approach. Not even the Asian men in DC would approach me. In fact, Asian men in DC seem to be more into blond southern belles than the Asian men in NYC for some reason. I've also observed that southern white girls are more likely to date Asian men than northern white girls, so maybe that's why.
Whenever I went out with my best friend, who is tall, blonde, green-eyed, but slightly chubby, a lot of men would hit on her but ignore me. But when we went out in NYC, the amount of attention we received was more evenly balanced. And when we were in San Francisco, I actually got more attention than she did.
I feel like each city has its own ideal of beauty. In San Fran, it's someone like me - a beautiful, tall, and smart Asian American woman. In NYC, it's a bit more diverse. In DC, it's basically a blonde girl. Everybody says dating in DC is better than dating in NYC for women, but it's only true if you're a white woman. What do you think?
I'm 27 years old, 5'11", and Ivy League educated. When I was 20, I was approached by an agency to be a fashion model. Right now I work in one of the most prestigious law firms in DC, but somehow I can't find a boyfriend despite having lived here for the past two years and trying really hard. I've dated guys who are unemployed, who went to community college, and I've even dated guys who are a couple of inches shorter than me. So it's not like I have high standards.
Whenever I go up to NYC, I get much more attention and get hit on more often. Heck, one of the most common pick-up lines I get from guys in NYC is "Are you a model?" or that I'm the most beautiful Asian woman they've ever seen. Even though I don't like pick-up lines, it's still really nice to hear that when I feel so undesirable and undervalued in DC.
Somehow, whenever I go out here in DC, not a single guy would hit on me. Or rather, the only men who would approach me are black guys or really old and sketchy white guys. Often times, the type of guys that I prefer (preppy and athletic) would check me out from the corner of their eyes but not approach. Not even the Asian men in DC would approach me. In fact, Asian men in DC seem to be more into blond southern belles than the Asian men in NYC for some reason. I've also observed that southern white girls are more likely to date Asian men than northern white girls, so maybe that's why.
Whenever I went out with my best friend, who is tall, blonde, green-eyed, but slightly chubby, a lot of men would hit on her but ignore me. But when we went out in NYC, the amount of attention we received was more evenly balanced. And when we were in San Francisco, I actually got more attention than she did.
I feel like each city has its own ideal of beauty. In San Fran, it's someone like me - a beautiful, tall, and smart Asian American woman. In NYC, it's a bit more diverse. In DC, it's basically a blonde girl. Everybody says dating in DC is better than dating in NYC for women, but it's only true if you're a white woman. What do you think?
I think you're in the wrong forum. This is the Washington State forum, not Washington D.C. But I think you'd be very appreciated in Seattle.
Maybe being Asian is not the reason men don't approach you in DC. Maybe its something else. I know a lot of Asian women in the DC area that do fine. In fact, I would say dating in DC is easier for Asian women than other races.
NYC men are hyper confident because NYC culture is arrogant. The women are the same way... very bold and aggressive. Its because the city has so many people and everyone is always in a rush.. so people don't have time to BS. They just get to the point.
I will read and address the rest of your post entirely separately but man, it's definitely a DC thing. Why the need to pull your collegiate credentials? Apparently you are getting hit on but nothing is sticking- not trying to offend you. Again, I haven't read your entire post so take this one on its own.
I'm 27 years old, 5'11", and Ivy League educated. When I was 20, I was approached by an agency to be a fashion model. Right now I work in one of the most prestigious law firms in DC, but somehow I can't find a boyfriend despite having lived here for the past two years and trying really hard. I've dated guys who are unemployed, who went to community college, and I've even dated guys who are a couple of inches shorter than me. So it's not like I have high standards.
Somehow, whenever I go out here in DC, not a single guy would hit on me. Or rather, the only men who would approach me are black guys or really old and sketchy white guys. Often times, the type of guys that I prefer (preppy and athletic) would check me out from the corner of their eyes but not approach. Not even the Asian men in DC would approach me. In fact, Asian men in DC seem to be more into blond southern belles than the Asian men in NYC for some reason. I've also observed that southern white girls are more likely to date Asian men than northern white girls, so maybe that's why.
Here is why- you simply don't have it. You try too hard and it shows all over your face. I am looking at your right now and I see you very clear.
Let me tell you a secret- for the people that you want to associate with, it's a white women's game. I am not trying to be hard but IVY league doesn't teach you social skills. It's learned through experience. Every city has its own texture and you can't expect to get the same results from each city. DC is not as diverse as you think- ethnically yes but not culturally. There is a reason why you broke out the IVY league, prestigious law firm, and preppy athletic. This is DC white culture. It's not to say that as an Asian you can't be part of this but you have to play the part CORRECTLY. And it's not only in your IVY card or Law Firm employee ID card. Men are hunters and we know exactly who and what we want according to texture.
You need a few courses in social skills. NO, I am not kidding or trying to undermine you. I am telling you, this is what I do. I have lived in 3 Asian countries for over 15 months each. Even my High School in Jersey was 35% Korean. I know the Asian culture and I am telling from a lot of experience.
Your rant comes across incredibly arrogant and you're probably unapproachable.
As an Asian-American myself, I find it pathetic that you believe that by simply being Asian, guys wouldn't want to date you. It's quite insulting, actually. Sounds like you have some deep self-hatred issues.
The fact that you say that you're not very picky yet allude to wanting to be with only athletic white guys says it all. I personally don't know many Asian women that have trouble dating men regardless of their racial preferences. If you're truly as beautiful as you believe yourself to be, then it's most certainly your personality and the way you come across to people.
BTW, I went to community college for my first two years of undergrad. Unfortunately, I didn't have the opportunity or the resources to go to an Ivy League school. However, I have a great career and make well over 100k. I also know of several other stories similar to mine. Just sayin
Last edited by Deezy303; 11-19-2015 at 01:23 AM..
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DC isn't the polyglot you think it is. Professionals there quickly learn everyone has a place and a position and straying from yours will get you burned. Unlike cities with industry, it's not about what you can do. It's about who you know, who you work for, and who you are. It's almost as class conscious as 1930s England.
In other words, the men you are interested in are afraid of you. You probably appear too exotic, too connected. They are not in your league. You are unobtainium, and they are deathly afraid of being rejected by you. Rejection in DC is an unpardonable failure of the rejected.
It's not really a nice place to live or work.
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