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1. Your husband needs to swallow his pride/jealousy. 2. You're a professional and he needs to understand everything that that entails.
I'd extend him the same courtesies you'd expect if the situation was reversed (based upon the boundaries of your relationship). e.g: I'd tell my wife the restaurant we'd be at and I'd be sure NOT to get home reeking of alcohol..
Great perception, I'm a big fan of Freudian theories along with Ellis's views
I'm also believe that humans have a right to their individual views and beliefs, if we all had the same views and beliefs on every single thing then life would be quite dull.
Sometimes we have to make a decisions and choices in life in regards to what is the most important to us and to the OP is career more important than your marriage? Some of life's decisions aren't easy and when hastily made we sometimes regret things for life but only you can decide what is the most important in your situation.
Really? So in a judgment based decision that many had in regards to the husband having jealousy or control issues means that they are better to say he has issues than someone who has studied behavior and states that this could possibly just be his views or beliefs? Please think on this and elaborate, I really look forward to your answer and bases for the answer .
People sometimes mistake views and beliefs for issues without considering that all humans don't have the same views and beliefs as others, who are you all or me to say that he has issues with jealousy or control? Correlation does not imply causation!
Really? So in a judgment based decision that many had in regards to the husband having jealousy or control issues means that they are better to say he has issues than someone who has studied behavior and states that this could possibly just be his views or beliefs? Please think on this and elaborate, I really look forward to your answer and bases for the answer .
People sometimes mistake views and beliefs for issues without considering that all humans don't have the same views and beliefs as others, who are you all or me to say that he has issues with jealousy or control? Correlation does not imply causation!
Oh dear.
Erm.. everyone here gets that the husband has his views and beliefs. But lets be honest, generally views and beliefs come from experiences, training, upbringing, and a million other sources.
Just like.. thinking that this guy's cultural reference and belief set regarding women translates into some insecurity and rationale for why he can't trust that his wife is not all of sudden going to rip her bodice open and fling herself into some inappropriate behavior with two men.
And no-- a major in psychology that usually equates to around 32 hours of college credit is not going to make me pause and ooohh and ahhh over your "subject matter expertise" because quite frankly a BS in Psychology is only a mere introduction to Psychology and nothing more.
What, 32 hours! What college did u go to? Most any accredited bachelors degree requires a minimum of 128 credit hours. Add a masters and it's 30 more for a generalist or 60 for clinical (ability to be licensed).
All I can say is wow, who cares what his views or beliefs stem from they are his views and beliefs which he has the right to have.
All I can say is wow, who cares what his views or beliefs stem from they are his views and beliefs which he has the right to have.
All I can say is wow, and his wife also has the right to come onto a forum and ask others for opinions on a subject about which obviously she and her husband are clashing without having to wade through "advice" couched in textbook psychobabble.
What, 32 hours! What college did u go to? Most any accredited bachelors degree requires a minimum of 128 credit hours. Add a masters and it's 30 more for a generalist or 60 for clinical (ability to be licensed).
All I can say is wow, who cares what his views or beliefs stem from they are his views and beliefs which he has the right to have.
I'll respond more when I get home, but his beliefs are less interesting than yours at this point lol.
Really? So in a judgment based decision that many had in regards to the husband having jealousy or control issues means that they are better to say he has issues than someone who has studied behavior and states that this could possibly just be his views or beliefs? Please think on this and elaborate, I really look forward to your answer and bases for the answer .
People are saying, as well as the OP, that this man is jealous and controlling and he is. It makes no difference who has studied behavior. To the point, it makes no difference why he is jealous and controlling. What's important for the OP at this point is the potential consequences of him being jealous and controlling. Those potential consequences are professional in nature. This has been clearly spelled out by the OP. She's a manager, holds a higher position in her company, and with that position comes responsibilities and expectations on the part of her employers.
As far as you being a psych major goes, there is absolutely no reason that should be taken as a cred to ascertain this situation. Frankly, the opinions of professionals on this forum are probably more valuable to the OP because her concern is her career. Finally, you will find very few who are impressed with an undergrad psych degree, let alone an undergrad who is simply studying psych. If you were to actually implement what you've learned into your posts, that might be impressive. Thus far you have not. With that said, I'm not sure what a psych major can bring to the table via academic insight. Like Tober, one of my undergrad degrees was in psych as well and I can't say it really lent to behavioral insight. Perhaps it's different for you, tho, we won't know until you bring it to the table.
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People sometimes mistake views and beliefs for issues without considering that all humans don't have the same views and beliefs as others, who are you all or me to say that he has issues with jealousy or control? Correlation does not imply causation!
First off, you clearly have no idea what the phrase "correlation does not imply causation" means. Two correlate variables have not been addressed, aside from his tendencies and culture. That's a moot point given that her concern is the career. Second, there is no question that he is jealous and controlling if what the OP says is truth and we can only assume as much given this platform. He doesn't want her dining with male colleagues because that's not what decent women do. That's jealousy. That he is trying to sway her from professional obligations is controlling. If you don't think this is the case, specifically state why.
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