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Well my mother dying is more important. So if they can’t be flexible all they have to do is say so.
I think it’s better to ask now than to wait until after I start.
I'm in your corner and I think some of the responses were just cold. While I get the idea that a new employee making "demands" can be off putting this is a special circumstances. It sounds as if the need for a new schedule is a recent situation so you could not bring it up in the interview right? Seeing as they did say the hours were flexible, well....
If you are ready to walk away from this job to care for your mom, and major props to you for that, then you have nothing to lose by asking or by simply making that schedule on your first day if you get no response. Again the request is a bit of a risk but the new boss is being unprofessional in his/her non-response.
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It all boils down that some people only want to hear what they want to hear. If Amber is offended by some of the very mild comments on this thread ( I went back and reread each one, and they are VERY mild) then she needs to toughen up a little.
I guess we should have said " Oh, sweetie, that mean old boss should do whatever he can to help you out, after all, businesses should take better care of their employees, especially ones who haven't even started work yet !"
Just curious why the 1/2 hour though? To me, this amount of time is so small that I'm not sure I'd have risk losing my job over it. Or I'd just quit to be with my mom. Or ask one of the siblings who have been at their jobs longer to get an adjustment so I could arrive after my 5pm shift ended.
Just curious why the 1/2 hour though? To me, this amount of time is so small that I'm not sure I'd have risk losing my job over it. Or I'd just quit to be with my mom. Or ask one of the siblings who have been at their jobs longer to get an adjustment so I could arrive after my 5pm shift ended.
Yes I think people are curious to the con text of the situation? Is your mom in the hospital?
This from a person who sent a DM to call me names? That alone sent your credibility and maturity into the crapper! So sad, So pathetic........
When you play the dead or dying mom card, be prepared for people to call your hand! Don't get upset when we see a flaw in your story that begs an answer.
I find it rather unusual that someone needs 30 minutes to care for a newly diagnosed cancer patient at the end of the work day specifically at 4:30PM. Treatment options still need to be discussed, and when a decision is made that treatment typically occurs during work hours. Furthermore, treatment does not start the same week as the diagnosis. I'm very curious about what sort of care is urgently needed specifically at this time of day for someone who just received bad news from the doctor.
I'm also wondering whether the new employee is running this idea on a forum first to check the believability factor.
Thank you again to those of you with the kind words and helpful advice. Unfortunately I will not be coming back to this forum. Kindness seems to be something you can’t find too much of here. This forum seems to harbor many unhappy and bitter people. Life is too short to spend time arguing with people that have nothing better to do. My mother’s life will be ending at the age of 52. Good night.
I am glad it worked out and really am not surprised. Unless you are working on some sort of queue, or your shift has bearing on the next shift most companies dont care. They want to make sure they get their 8hrs out of you. I have many indirect reports (folks who report to my direct reports) that work multiple schedules based on their needs.
That would probably be best for the both of you. Terminal Cancer isn't like a one day event, you will increasingly be called upon to take time off and do things. It will start off with you wanting to leave at 4:30, then you will need a day off, and it will go from there.
Companies need to operate on a consistent basis, with people they can depend on. I've been around the block a lot of times, both on the management side and as an employee, and this one has all the earmarks of not ending well.
Sorry about your mom, but you need to make a decision before you waste their time and your time.
I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt in surmising this is for companies in general, and not something that's absolute. Still, I had to link a shocking story about company loyalty that's almost unheard of this day in age....
Well my mother dying is more important. So if they can’t be flexible all they have to do is say so.
I think it’s better to ask now than to wait until after I start.
I agree. Better to let them know ahead of time, as that helps them to plan for this better. Whether or not both of you (parties) can make it work... at least you can say you tried to do the right thing.
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