Married Woman and invited to business dinner with 2 men that are clients-husband is livid (collect, jobs)
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Am I being too "liberal" by accepting to go to a business dinner with a manager of a company who provides services to me/my company and his boss? I don't think there is anything inappropriate in this.
My husband, on the other hand is livid and causing a huge problem, telling me that "decent married women don't go to business dinners alone with men" Well, it's not a one on one deal, and I don't have any other colleagues to take with me of a management level, as I am the top level manager (and only one) at my regional office.
I know both hosts, and one of them is older, married and the other doesn't prefer women anyways.
My husband is from latin america so I think part of it is cultural but he's telling me that out of respect for him, I should not go. Well in my opinion, to stay ahead in my job and career, and play the manager role, I need to accept the invitation, and I want to accept the invitation. I think it will be a nice dinner with conversation about our industry.
My husband has always been more jealous than normal, and I really don't want it getting in the way of my career, that is just starting to go the way I'd always wanted.
This is a business function and unless your spouse is actively involved in the company in a decision making function he has no business attending the dinner unless the invitation included spouses.
Ask your husband if he would think twice about attending a business dinner with two female professionals. His attitude will hold you back in your career and he needs to trust you to do what is right. Latin or not, he's off base.
I was married to a Latin american man and I divorced him pronto . He started the jealous card with me too and I was doing nothing wrong and he was so jealous and I could not handle it and it got me fired from 2 jobs and that was the last straw . He cursed my boss out in the lobby of my office and the boss told me to collect my things I was done working there . I went home and the next day I moved out to my moms house and saw a divorce lawyer . i had , had enough and one day you will too . Your husband is totally out of line . He should stay home and keep his mouth shut .
My husband has always been more jealous than normal, and I really don't want it getting in the way of my career, that is just starting to go the way I'd always wanted.
Your thoughts??
DO NOT let your husband's over-the-top jealousy get in the way of a career you're really happy about and is going well. The only reason not to go to this is because you're a women and they're men. You aren't going to stop being a woman and men aren't going to stop being in your networking circle, so it will constantly hold you back if you decline invitations from men forever. Don't give in.
Am I being too "liberal" by accepting to go to a business dinner with a manager of a company who provides services to me/my company and his boss? I don't think there is anything inappropriate in this.
My husband, on the other hand is livid and causing a huge problem, telling me that "decent married women don't go to business dinners alone with men" Well, it's not a one on one deal, and I don't have any other colleagues to take with me of a management level, as I am the top level manager (and only one) at my regional office.
I know both hosts, and one of them is older, married and the other doesn't prefer women anyways.
My husband is from latin america so I think part of it is cultural but he's telling me that out of respect for him, I should not go. Well in my opinion, to stay ahead in my job and career, and play the manager role, I need to accept the invitation, and I want to accept the invitation. I think it will be a nice dinner with conversation about our industry.
My husband has always been more jealous than normal, and I really don't want it getting in the way of my career, that is just starting to go the way I'd always wanted.
Your thoughts??
My thoughts? You are married to a neanderthal who doesn't respect or trust you.
Dunno what you can do about that.
Why do so many women marry guys who don't respect or trust them? It makes no sense to me.
I think the husband might be having an affair with someone else....just my thoughts....
Your career and education will get you many places...do not mess up your opportunities because of his insecurities.
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