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Do you ever wonder why this bothers him so much? I'm not in his head but I remember how frustrating it can be to not feel heard or feel like I was invisible. I'm not saying Finn's reacting out of not having his needs meet just that's how I reacted before I felt like my opinions mattered.
It is a bit frustrating to see people lie about what has been said. Nothing to do with needs or feelings of being invisible.
If that is the case here you're not helping him. Unless, it's in a tough love sort of way, that you keep working that nerve until he gets sick of being controlled by it and tries to fix it.
Working the nerve is called "trolling". There is a reason why I don't bother with pcamps. I don't even read his posts, unless someone replies to him, in which case they become visible.
If that is the case here you're not helping him. Unless, it's in a tough love sort of way, that you keep working that nerve until he gets sick of being controlled by it and tries to fix it. That way seems like it might backfire though and do more damage. If the feeling of being not heard is what's trapping him then hear him. Be as tenacious with making him feel understood as you are with telling him he doesn't understand.
But people are saying he's being disingenuous; double-minded; moving the goal posts. You can't do anything with that, unless they come clean and spit it out.
Me, I'm always ready to 'hand someone over to satan', if that's what they need, to 'save their soul'. Yea, tough love.
If that is the case here you're not helping him. Unless, it's in a tough love sort of way, that you keep working that nerve until he gets sick of being controlled by it and tries to fix it. That way seems like it might backfire though and do more damage. If the feeling of being not heard is what's trapping him then hear him. Be as tenacious with making him feel understood as you are with telling him he doesn't understand.
Every time i stay off CD for a while, it's because i get caught up in that which i have let go of, the error of thought that thinks there isn't something far greater out there than "I Am" doing a much better job than i am behind the computer
Working the nerve is called "trolling". There is a reason why I don't bother with pcamps. I don't even read his posts, unless someone replies to him, in which case they become visible.
Not necessarily. Working the nerve has worked a few times on me, I've gotten sick of being angry so I figured out I needed to change my approach. I've been slapped upside the head with my error a few times too. That just showed me where the problem was but did nothing to fix it.
Every time i stay off CD for a while, it's because i get caught up in that which i have let go of, the error of thought that thinks there isn't something far greater out there than "I Am" doing a much better job than i am behind the computer
Do you mean old faulty patterns of thinking resurface? That happens to me too.
But people are saying he's being disingenuous; double-minded; moving the goal posts. You can't do anything with that, unless they come clean and spit it out.
Maybe you shouldn't believe everything people say, or you are gullible and become a part of the gossip team. You saw it yourself with Jerwade and Pcamps parroting I never answered the questions, even after I showed them answering on three different occasions. It is easy to see who the disingenuous ones are.
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Me, I'm always ready to 'hand someone over to satan', if that's what they need,
Go hand them over if that gets you though the night.
Not necessarily. Working the nerve has worked a few times on me, I've gotten sick of being angry so I figured out I needed to change my approach. I've been slapped upside the head with my error a few times too. That just showed me where the problem was but did nothing to fix it.
You are still using words like "ahole" to refer to people, so I am not sure how well it worked.
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