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this type of thing is very common in BBP. It is the complete opposite of the transient nature of where I currently live in Florida. It makes it very appealing and I like the idea of my youngest having some “roots”- I feel like my older son does not have this and it does make me a bit sad.
Long Island is the polar opposite of Florida in that sense.
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However, my husband is a native Floridian so the winter and February gray would be new to him. While we have spent time on Long Island on a regular basis - 2 weeks is different than living. Not to mention adding his mother in law into the mix...so many dynamics to consider, but I do like the idea of us trying it for a bit before making a true decision.
You have 2 challenges to overcome here.
First, you grew up on LI so you have a warm feeling about it. You want your kids to have “roots” but you’re going to move to where they have none, and place them in an environment where they will be with other kids who are all in a clique - with them as the outsiders, at least for a while. They’ll adjust.
Your husband is the big question mark. There is a HUGE difference between spending a couple of weeks on vacation and dealing with everything as a resident. I’ve seen the same thing from people moving TO Florida - “we love it during snowbird season” and then they complain about the summer heat, how they can’t get good pizza, etc. And then the mother in law? Oy vey.
If you can spend a couple of months on LI first, living with your mother and all getting along, then maybe it will work.
But I also echo Jdawg - if you’re doing this to recapture your youth and aren’t thinking about the financial aspect you’ll be shocked when you see your electric bill, tax bill, etc. Florida is cheaper in most areas (except water).
Pretty sure the kids won’t have any trouble fitting in considering one is an adult now going to college and the other is a baby. Expense also seems like a non issue when you are moving in to a paid off house and both parents are gainfully employed. Some people actually like their in-laws as well, considering hubby been around close to
18 years if not way more, he must know if he would be able to put up with his mother in law. Seems pretty low risk giving it a shot. If it doesn’t work out, try out a much better part of Florida, Bayport is much nicer than Orlando unless you’re one of those weirdos who goes to Disney every weekend.
Living with a parent is not good for a marriage no matter how nice they are. Couples need privacy.
Co-worker of mine did that twenty years ago, so he could have "a bigger house". Now he complains to us every day about having to see his MIL every time he enters the living room.
A memorable quote from him: "It seemed like a good idea at the time".
Some people actually like their in-laws as well, considering hubby been around close to 18 years if not way more, he must know if he would be able to put up with his mother in law
I get along well with my in-laws, and have known them for around the same amount of time. 2 weeks is my limit.
Again, being on vacation and visiting is a LOT different than living in someone’s house.
But maybe hubby is cool with it...if so good for him.
I get along well with my in-laws, and have known them for around the same amount of time. 2 weeks is my limit.
Again, being on vacation and visiting is a LOT different than living in someone’s house.
But maybe hubby is cool with it...if so good for him.
OP isn’t very responsive so who really knows what the story is. I am pretty easy going but, I did 14 months with my in-laws while I was building a house and again another 6 months while I renovated their new house when I bought theirs. The 2nd time was with 3 kids including a 1 year old.
Don’t you live in a 5000 sqft mcmansion? You must not like your in-laws too much!!
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