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I'm a Christian. I go to church every week. However, I skipped church today to protest Mother's Day (knowing that topic would come up this morning).
Why? Because I don't like my mother. My relationship with her is highly strained. I'm assuming that means I chose the correct subform for this topic.
I don't even like calling her my mother. She's just my biological mother. I wish she had given me away at birth to some other family who wants to love a child even if he's gay. I actually ran away from home, twice, but I didn't have the resources and courage to keep it up and stay away.
My biological mother is a bigot. She hates blacks and she hates gays. For some reason she doesn't hate jews. David Duke is more of an equal opportunity bigot than her. Worse yet, she concentrates her hatred of blacks and gays onto the gays. She feels sorry for blacks because they're stupid, but gays are much worse. They're sinners, and they do that on purpose!
I quit sending this person a Mother's Day card several years ago. I just didn't think she deserves it because she's a bigot/homophobe. Just like David Duke, though, she's a Christian! She gives all Christians a bad name. Like so many, she's divorced and remarried, a sin according to the Bible, but she ignores that. People like her is the reason homophobia is the #1 problem non-christians have with christians. Seriously, are christians trying to make themselves irrelevant?
I would like to disown my mother, officially demote her from mother to biological mother, and I'll replace her position with my dad's new wife. My question is, has anyone done this? What should I put in a disownment letter? Spell it all out why I'm ashamed of her, or keep it short and sweet? Thanks!
Forget the disownment letter, it's melodramatic and counter productive. You have every right not to send your mom a Mother's Day card and to forget she ever lived. Millions of people who have had bad relationships with their mothers do this, you are FAR from alone.
She deserves no written explanation why you have "divorced" her. Your silence is sufficiently eloquent. Take heart: my husband hasn't seen his mother in 21 years, since he married me. His mom told him, "if you marry that girl, I will never see you again!"
And guess what? She's hasn't.
Her loss.
So don't feel guilty about being estranged or ignoring your mother. If a child never sees a parent, you can bet there is a damn good reason for it. So chin up and continue ignoring her. It will get easier as the years pile up with no contact.
I'm a Christian. I go to church every week. However, I skipped church today to protest Mother's Day (knowing that topic would come up this morning).
Why? Because I don't like my mother. My relationship with her is highly strained. I'm assuming that means I chose the correct subform for this topic.
I don't even like calling her my mother. She's just my biological mother. I wish she had given me away at birth to some other family who wants to love a child even if he's gay. I actually ran away from home, twice, but I didn't have the resources and courage to keep it up and stay away.
My biological mother is a bigot. She hates blacks and she hates gays. For some reason she doesn't hate jews. David Duke is more of an equal opportunity bigot than her. Worse yet, she concentrates her hatred of blacks and gays onto the gays. She feels sorry for blacks because they're stupid, but gays are much worse. They're sinners, and they do that on purpose!
I quit sending this person a Mother's Day card several years ago. I just didn't think she deserves it because she's a bigot/homophobe. Just like David Duke, though, she's a Christian! She gives all Christians a bad name. Like so many, she's divorced and remarried, a sin according to the Bible, but she ignores that. People like her is the reason homophobia is the #1 problem non-christians have with christians. Seriously, are christians trying to make themselves irrelevant?
I would like to disown my mother, officially demote her from mother to biological mother, and I'll replace her position with my dad's new wife. My question is, has anyone done this? What should I put in a disownment letter? Spell it all out why I'm ashamed of her, or keep it short and sweet? Thanks!
I'm so sorry to here this...Every Mothers Day I place a large vase of Carnations on our dining table out of memory to our Mother's who have
passed... you should reevaluate.
Koale
I actually ran away from home, twice, but I didn't have the resources and courage to keep it up and stay away.
So you used your mother because you couldn't afford to live on your own, but you can't give her a card to say Thank you? How very christian like of you!
I notice on this thread that some people who have great relationships with their mom are trying to put their experiences onto the OP. ("Reevaluate!") Just because someone has had a lovely, caring mom does not mean everyone else has been so fortunate.
The OP does not have a loving mother, she is toxic.
I don't understand why sending a Mother's Day Card (or not sending one) is a big deal. People who are close to their moms are close to them all year long, not just on Mom's day.
Assuming all the OP said was/is true, I feel bad for the guy.
Move on... get on with your life, surround yourself with people who won't drag you down.
Life is too short.
Cliche?
Yes, but it true as heck.
Good luck to you.
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