sister has me in a bad spot (husband, member, house)
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Ok I guess I just need assurance more than anything. here is the situation. My 44 year old sister and her husband were put in jail 3 weeks ago accused of some heavy duty charges so bail is way to high to get out. no kids, thank god. but they lived in a not nice area and they had 4 dogs and a 2 cats. after the arrested they called a friend to come over to take care of the dogs, they thought they would be released the next day. Well they weren't and may not be for many months. in the meantime animal control came and took the dogs and cats.2 of the dogs are older over 10 and 2 are young, they are all small dogs, so of course once she found out she begged me to take the dogs, I cant take 4 dogs, I already have one. my husband says we cannot take anymore dogs. I would take the 2 older one's in a heartbeat but im not going to throw 26 years of marriage away for 2 dogs. and the one dog is diabetic and blind and needs insulin. The 2 younger one's have been adopted out but the two older one's are still in the shelter. I have tried every foster and rescue group around my area no one will take them and now the shelter is telling met he best thing to do is put the diabetic one to sleep. I just cant get over this, she's really put me in a predicament, she loves these dogs like her kids and she has threatened if anything happens to them she will kill herself. I love animals and im literally crying every day over this. I don't know what to do.. im so sad and cant bring myself to tell her the truth.
Ok I guess I just need assurance more than anything. here is the situation. My 44 year old sister and her husband were put in jail 3 weeks ago accused of some heavy duty charges so bail is way to high to get out. no kids, thank god. but they lived in a not nice area and they had 4 dogs and a 2 cats. after the arrested they called a friend to come over to take care of the dogs, they thought they would be released the next day. Well they weren't and may not be for many months. in the meantime animal control came and took the dogs and cats.2 of the dogs are older over 10 and 2 are young, they are all small dogs, so of course once she found out she begged me to take the dogs, I cant take 4 dogs, I already have one. my husband says we cannot take anymore dogs. I would take the 2 older one's in a heartbeat but im not going to throw 26 years of marriage away for 2 dogs. and the one dog is diabetic and blind and needs insulin. The 2 younger one's have been adopted out but the two older one's are still in the shelter. I have tried every foster and rescue group around my area no one will take them and now the shelter is telling met he best thing to do is put the diabetic one to sleep. I just cant get over this, she's really put me in a predicament, she loves these dogs like her kids and she has threatened if anything happens to them she will kill herself. I love animals and im literally crying every day over this. I don't know what to do.. im so sad and cant bring myself to tell her the truth.
Your sister's mess isnt your mess.
That being said, the pets suffering because of her is terrible.
But that's not 1 or two pets. It's six.
I dont know what I'd do.
If it was my sibling, I'd probably be really frustrated, but I'm an animal lover, so as lon as they were trained and didnt ruin the house/furniture, I would take them in.
Your sister's mess isnt your mess.
That being said, the pets suffering because of her is terrible.
But that's not 1 or two pets. It's six.
I dont know what I'd do.
If it was my sibling, I'd probably be really frustrated, but I'm an animal lover, so as lon as they were trained and didnt ruin the house/furniture, I would take them in.
It's a really really difficult situation.
I know I love animals too but honestly she was very lazy in taking them out, they did let them do their business on pee pads in the house, and remember one dog is diabetic and they drink a lot more and pee a lot, we are not home all day so other than the messing in the house they are good dogs, but I cant have them just going to the bathroom anywhere.
Do what you can do. If you can't take them, then you can't.
Ultimately, this situation sits on your sister's shoulders. Not yours. If she wants to die over these dogs, that's on her.
I would consult with the vet or the shelter and follow their advice.
Not to be callous, but pets die everyday. People die everyday. Your sister will grieve like anyone else who has suffered a loss. What her future holds is up to her. Not you.
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My sister and unfair situation
