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"Guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days." - Benjamin Franklin
Three years ago one of my stepdaughters called and said she and her two young sons were homeless and asked if they could come out from California and stay with us for awhile while she got back on her feet. Much against my better judgment (and my wife's) I said they could. I did so for the boys, not for her.
Big mistake. First of all, we had to give her money to make the trip. She was all sweetness and light for the first two days they were here and then she reverted to type and became increasingly nasty and divisive and made no attempt to find work. Finally, she became demanding and defiant so after five weeks I invited them to leave.
At first she refused to go until I reminded her that this wasn't California, Toto! In our state I was well within my rights to escort her out at gunpoint if need be and would do just that if she wasn't gone the next morning. She was.
Lesson learned! Did I mention that she is no longer welcome to darken our door, ever?
HOLY MOLY! Well, I think hats off to you for holding it in as long as you did. ME, I have an Scotch-Irish temper that would have had a hard time not kicking him in the teeth (metaphorically). So the real question is, how did you get so patient? Can you teach the rest of us?
Seriously tho. What an insufferable jerk.
I recently had a houseguest of my own, a Colombian. We had been roommates before and I thought I knew him, but little did i know. He made cracks about my tiny place, talked about how I needed to make more money (even tho I am an international studies student with an excellent grade point average and a good future), kicked my cat out of the bed when it was cold ("animals should be outside" he said, as if it were his home and his decision to make), invited his best friend over who proceeded to drink all my roommate's alcoholic beverages, asked other girls for nude pics via Skype while I was sitting next to him (we had a romance for a minute).....etc etc etc. Now, you must understand that this guy is able to travel and live the way he does because a) HE STILL LIVES WITH HIS MOM and B) his stepdad gets his cheap air tickets for him. Yet, he was looking down on me for not being able to travel nor live in a place befitting his "station" even tho he grew up poor in a narcoeconomy. I guess if mommy spoils you it doesn't matter how poor you are, you will still have a twisted sense of entitlement.
So I threw him out. And ended the friendship. Done and dusted. YOU DID THE RIGHT THING. Don't throw pearls at swine!!!!
Honestly you should have told him to GTFO out of your house before you call the cops. Then brought up that we have a second amendment in the US if he refuses to leave that was made to protect decent people from creeps like him. That would have shown his snobby sociopathic Euro-a**.
Back in the 80s my teenage son brought his pal to stay as his dad had thrown him out..... he said he would only be with me a week tops as his sister was taking him in but hadnt the room ready, so I went along with it..... two weeks later hes still with me.. but thankfully was at work all day so not as bad and he contributed a little to his keep ....next thing I get a phone call.... He had broken his leg playing football.... so that was it..... in my house for weeks lying around, not his fault but he didnt move on or try to as he said he had no money to pay his way with his sister hahaha laughable..so I had him under my feet for weeks... and was promised all his dig money when he went back to work..... he did go back and his sister took him in ... he came in said his goodbyes, gave me a cuddle and said thanks and gave me a wee gift bag with a soft toy in it..... I sat stunned and thought What a fool I am.... what a soft mark.... never again...some people have no sense to what is being given to them by reading some of your posts... they really are off the scale....I lived with a cousin for a few weeks many years ago and got up early and tidied up her house early and made breakfast for her getting up... then got out of her way most of the day with my two young babies... I hated being in her way and couldnt wait to move to my own place..
As others later noted, its because she already had this giant abcess infection and came anyways, to a place she didn't know the language or even have insurance for. My sister is very young, 19, and I guess her 19 yo friend thought a gigantic life-threatening infection wasn't going to interfere with her French shopping experience... Oy.
She also later admitted to draining the wound in the same tub I was bathing the babies.... Yuck. I would have offered her our spare shower??
Back in the 80s my teenage son brought his pal to stay as his dad had thrown him out..... he said he would only be with me a week tops as his sister was taking him in but hadnt the room ready, so I went along with it..... two weeks later hes still with me.. but thankfully was at work all day so not as bad and he contributed a little to his keep ....next thing I get a phone call.... He had broken his leg playing football.... so that was it..... in my house for weeks lying around, not his fault but he didnt move on or try to as he said he had no money to pay his way with his sister hahaha laughable..so I had him under my feet for weeks... and was promised all his dig money when he went back to work..... he did go back and his sister took him in ... he came in said his goodbyes, gave me a cuddle and said thanks and gave me a wee gift bag with a soft toy in it..... I sat stunned and thought What a fool I am.... what a soft mark.... never again...some people have no sense to what is being given to them by reading some of your posts... they really are off the scale....I lived with a cousin for a few weeks many years ago and got up early and tidied up her house early and made breakfast for her getting up... then got out of her way most of the day with my two young babies... I hated being in her way and couldnt wait to move to my own place..
would never put myself in this situation. I would never agree to let someone stay with me overnight, let alone a week, that I didn't know very well, and get along with very well.
You said you wanted to pay him back, send a thank you card. Tell him if he want's to travel to Denver to visit you, that there is a hotel down the road, since he can feed himself, he should also drive himself, and find a hotel.
Once he was in your house for the week, it was over, there was nothing you could do at this point.
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