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It feels like some friends just lie or disown you, so here's my situation: I started working at my current company straight out of college in January, and in June another co-worker started straight out from college. We quickly became very good buddies and so close to each other that we and especially him shared his whole private life with me, his issues and basically almost everything. We were very close to each other and had basically great time together. Unfortunately he left work few weeks ago and the day he left I cried so much, and he was sad too. He gave me hugs and said that we could still hang out on weekends, etc. despite him being busy and having tons of friends from his hometown, school, etc.
Last week was his birthday and I texted him and didn't respond back to me after wishing him happy birthday and that whenever he is available the following week I will take him out for dinnee at any of his favorite restaurants, and would have even giving him small gift card. I never ever do this to anyone, but since I liked him, nice, fun and 'sweetheart' and enjoyed being together I wanted to do this, and maybe occasionally hanging out once a month or so and became a friend to him just like all his other buddies. I can't believe he ignored me, but texting him few days before asking how he's doing he did respond back to me.
I know we only knew each other for few months, but those few months we became very close. I was much nicer to him than him even being to me, such as giving him good advice, comforting him when he didn't do well, gave him food (even sometimes shared with him), etc. something that very few if any would do. He knows that I liked him as friend, and obviously he saw me crying so much at work the day he left and managers know I was sad and depressed first few days after he left. They knew we were close. I still miss him at work a lot but life goes on, but it would have been nice to still hang out by I guess he doesn't want ?
OP, you admitted in other threads that you had romantic feelings for this friend. Perhaps he picked up on that and was uncomfortable.
/\ This. Not to upset you, but he may have suspected that you have deep feelings for him, and he may not be ready for a relationship. Friend zone him for now, and see what happens.
Unless he was moving overseas I don't see why your friendship would be affected by you guys not sharing the same workplace. If he is too busy to socialize with you in his non-work life then I doubt you were as close as you say you were.
Yeah I think you are getting put in the friend zone...the not too close friend zone. Cried? Depressed? Clearly you have deep feelings for him. I'm sure he has picked up on it and is setting some boundaries.
gave him food (even sometimes shared with him), etc. something that very few if any would do.
I'd have run like mad too if someone cried over me and called me sweetheart at work, and I'm a girl. Hell, he might have left work because of you. He's straight, you're not; you smothered him.
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