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I regret not having more than one child. My daughter is my heart - My second husband raised her and considers her to be his daughter in every way, which is a blessing. By the time we were ready to have a child together, I fought an off-again, on-again battle with breast cancer and it never happened. Now I am 42, so "them days are over." I can't imagine how empty my life would have been without my "little" girl who has blossomed into a lovely young woman.
The kind who had children who drove a wedge into her marriage because her husband would never discipline them. The kind who has a 29 year old son who was a drug addict from 15-25 and even though he's clean has now chosen to drink heavily and drive without a license due to a DUI. The kind of person who is forced to live with him because he doesn't make enough money on SSDI to survive.
What kind of person would say that? The kind who loves her kids but realizes her life would have been so much better off without this particular son. The kind who feels she has a handicapped child because all he does is sit in his room all day smoking, drinking and watching TV. The kind that always wonders if I should have done more or should I have done less to help him.
What kind of a person would say that? The kind who has considered suicide on more than one occasion because all of this is too painful to watch and live through, who has become a widow and had to deal with cancer 8 months later. The kind that realizes she will never have any peace in her life and who, even on her death bed, is going to worry about this son because nobody and I mean nobody wants to deal with him or have him live with them. Right now in his room on the night table are 16 empty beer cans and liquor bottles along with overflowing ashtrays. He has spent the weekend with his female friend and his daughter. Oh yes, did I mention he has a daughter that I have to take care of most weekends because he is sleeping off his hangover?
So before people peg anybody who says they regret having children as some horrible person, think about what YOUR life would be like if you had a child who was a drug addict, a thief, a prostitute, a pedophile or any number of horrible things your child could have been. And it's not always the parents' fault. My son was the typical stupid 15 year old who thought he would be the exception that could use drugs and not get hooked. He learned the hard way. He had so much potential and he threw it all away. It brings me to tears just writing this because, as you know, I am a horrible person for even wishing for a moment that I didn't have kids.
I regret not having more than one child. My daughter is my heart - My second husband raised her and considers her to be his daughter in every way, which is a blessing. By the time we were ready to have a child together, I fought an off-again, on-again battle with breast cancer and it never happened. Now I am 42, so "them days are over." I can't imagine how empty my life would have been without my "little" girl who has blossomed into a lovely young woman.
Why are those days over? My wife got pregnant with our last one naturally at 42 and doctor said she could of had a few more. My first cousin got married for first time at 40 to a 50 year old man and had three kids between 41 and 47. YOU ARE A SPRING CHICKEN
Parents of teenagers understand why animals eat their young.
I didn't like my daughter at times during her teenage years but I always loved her.
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