weddings - i need to vent... (funerals, grandma, funeral, wife)
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And then I bet they started some thread on a message board about how awfully the church treated them and how it was nothing more than a business trying to gouge them for money. The world is made for those who lack self-awareness.
If you go to wedding forums like The Knot, you'll find them.
We are spiritual, none committed to a certain faith Christians. When I got married it was in the chapel at the Bellagio. Looks like a small church in photos, all are welcome.
Would never have the NERVE to go to any church thinking they owed me a wedding.
If you go to wedding forums like The Knot, you'll find them.
We are spiritual, none committed to a certain faith Christians. When I got married it was in the chapel at the Bellagio. Looks like a small church in photos, all are welcome.
Would never have the NERVE to go to any church thinking they owed me a wedding.
Churches should really cash in on these folks.
Just out of wild curiosity, I went to a couple of forums. Damn. It's crazy. One poster noted that the church was perfect except for one tiny problem: Instead of two rows of pews, the church had three rows of pews. So she want to know if the church WOULD HAVE A PROBLEM IF THEY REARRANGED THE PEWS. Never mind that they're likely bolted to the floor. Never mind, even if they managed to get them unbolted, doing so would cause damage to the floors. Why? So she could have the aisle with taffeta on both sides of a central aisle.
Reading this thread I am feeling bad for even planning a wedding! Everyone seems pretty excited about it- now I'm worried they are putting up a front.
Everybody is excited about it! There's going to be a nice party with good food and great friends. But keep it in perspective. You're planning a wedding and everyone else is living their lives. So, like when your closest friend's father dies, don't say Oh no! Then a second later start talking about your wedding and how hard it is to plan it....and that no one understands...
Yeah...that happened. At least she seemed to understand why I had to bow out. Frankly at that point I didn't really care.
Outside of the bachelor/ette parties, I am really not familiar with this tradition of wedding parties covering costs (including their own) for weddings.
I have been in more than a few weddings and depending on the culture my responsibilities were different each time. One thing was a constant, I was never expected or asked to spend money.
I am the youngest of 6 daughters and my father paid for all of our weddings: including the bride/grooms party travel/lodging.
I married into a culture where the mother in law makes the dress for the bride so my father compromised with my future (now ex) MIL by buying the material, accessories, etc for it and then my MIL made it.
I would be honest and up front with the bride/your friend and tell her why you don't want to be part of it. If she's really your friend she will understand and find someone else who wants to pay $1,000 to be part of her wedding or better yet, she will realize how ridiculous that is.
I think it is (used to be ) customary for the bride's parents to pay for hotels for out of town bridal party members. Air travel... I don't know...
I've always wondered about extravagant destination weddings that celebrities have. Do they pay to fly everyone in and put everyone up? Surely not all of their friends are as rich as they are.
I think showers have gotten more over the top since I got married. It used to be just your BFF's, and a few family members for cake. If there was a bachelorette party, it was clubbing in your home town, not jetting off to Vegas.
The trick is to invite rich people who will not come. Keeps your cost down but when they decline, they usually send a gift anyway.
Right - this is exactly what I meant. This is precisely why people invite others to wedding whom they are 100% sure won't come (i.e., they're out of town & it would cost too much to travel, etc.). They invite them anyway so the people will be obligated to buy a gift. This is so obvious, I don't know why more people don't realize this is something that happens a lot.
Reading this thread I am feeling bad for even planning a wedding! Everyone seems pretty excited about it- now I'm worried they are putting up a front.
Not everyone hates weddings. The nay-sayers on this thread are the same ones you'll see on every thread about weddings, baby showers, and housewarming parties. God forbid they buy a gift and socialize for a few hours.
Don't feel that way. Just keep the thing in perspective. Not knowing a thing about you, you're likely not a member of a royal family, so there's no need for a chorus line, dancing bears, and a seal act. In short, keep it fun for everyone without bankrupting anyone.
a chorus line, dancing bears, and a seal act
Yup been to those kinds of weddings and they're a nightmare! Yes, it's all about the couple getting married, but it takes the work of others to make the show happen. Don't get too full of yourself. You're still human just like everyone else. I've met brides who make Kate Middleton look like a janitor.....talk about Diva Town.
I can't believe a bride/maid of honor would ask other bridesmaids to pitch in for a shower! That is ridiculous. $200? I have been in weddings and thrown a bridal shower, and this was Never the case.
Speaking of unflattering styles- before my breast cancer I was a natural 34G. I had to bow out of 2 weddings because the brides insisted they wanted everyone in strapless gowns. Um. Nope. Physics.
Did the bride want everyone staring at your chest instead of her? Very few people can actually look good in anything strapless. Most people look terrible going strapless. Good for you for not wanting to give the guests a show.....can't believe no one thinks about this and how you'd feel if they fell out.
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