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Wow you have a lot of issues about your relative's love life! Maybe focus on your own. A woman can be independent and married at the same time. Ask my husband! Your issue is that you don't trust men. Well her engagement isn't about you! Can't you just be happy for someone?[/quote]
She has never even bothered to meet the man, even though there were a few opportunities to do so.
If someone has real concerns, than they make it a point to meet the person.
Sounds more like jealousy, perhaps the OP is now the only family member of a certain age range who is now not married. Shouldn't matter, but there are some people who will focus on that.
Wow you have a lot of issues about your relative's love life! Maybe focus on your own. A woman can be independent and married at the same time. Ask my husband! Your issue is that you don't trust men. Well her engagement isn't about you! Can't you just be happy for someone?[/quote]
The OP has a LOT of issues. They're HER issues not her relatives issues. And no she isn't happy about the engagement.....for crying out loud look at the title of the thread! None of us are assuming anything! She has repeatedly stated that she doesn't trust a man she's never met!
I don't mean to sound like that. I think marriage with the right person is a wonderful thing. I think it's something she wanted, but didn't talk much about it because she didn't think she'd find the right guy. Also, I am not 100% against marrying foreigners, depending on the country. I certainly hope she isn't being deceived, but as I said, she's not a dummy and if she feels like this is the right choice, I will support her.
What country is this guy from? FWIW, I don't blame you for being concerned.
The OP has a LOT of issues. They're HER issues not her relatives issues. And no she isn't happy about the engagement.....for crying out loud look at the title of the thread! None of us are assuming anything! She has repeatedly stated that she doesn't trust a man she's never met![/QUOTE]
Exactly. It would be different if she met him and got some bad vibes, but that is not the case.
She has chosen on purpose not to meet him. Hopefully the cousin is smart enough not to ask her to be in the wedding party.
She has never even bothered to meet the man, even though there were a few opportunities to do so.
If someone has real concerns, than they make it a point to meet the person.
Sounds more like jealousy, perhaps the OP is now the only family member of a certain age range who is now not married. Shouldn't matter, but there are some people who will focus on that.
I'm not sure how anyone can have real concerns over someone they have never met, versus manufactured concerns they have simply created in their own mind.
If anything, I think the OP needs to separate herself from her mother's negative views.
What country is this guy from? FWIW, I don't blame you for being concerned.
If you're concerned than you make it a point to meet the guy, the OP had a few opportunites to do this and never did.
So much for real concerns.
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Originally Posted by Liberty2011
I'm not sure how anyone can have real concerns over someone they have never met, versus manufactured concerns they have simply created in their own mind.
If anything, I think the OP needs to separate herself from her mother's negative views.
Ok, I'll get right on that ... I can guarantee this guy is taking advantage of a desperate 35 year old, single woman.
Who said anything about her being desperate? Or do you just assume that if a woman gets to 35 without finding love, she must be desperate and willing to settle for anything?
Who said anything about her being desperate? Or do you just assume that if a woman gets to 35 without finding love, she must be desperate and willing to settle for anything?
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