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Gizmo, sometimes when people are dying they come to their senses a little bit and realize what selfish a**es they've been. It may be that that will happen with your brother and you two may create a new connection that was never there before--or maybe not, but you will feel like the bigger person if you go see him at least once before he dies. I'm sorry for what you've been thru w/ your family--mine is pretty insane too, but I guess I'd go see my nutty sis if she were dying, though we've not been in contact for years--sometimes dying is a new beginning.
I admit to wondering if my brothers illness would give him a change of heart. If he comes to his senses and realizes how important family ties can be, it would be really nice. Better late than never, I suppose. This is assuming he'll give me more than his usual obligatory 2 minute conversation. I'll probably break down and give it another try but I have to admit that I'm anticipating more of the same old thing I've gotten for years.
I admit to wondering if my brothers illness would give him a change of heart. If he comes to his senses and realizes how important family ties can be, it would be really nice. Better late than never, I suppose. This is assuming he'll give me more than his usual obligatory 2 minute conversation. I'll probably break down and give it another try but I have to admit that I'm anticipating more of the same old thing I've gotten for years.
Giz, I too come from a rediculously disfunctional family. But, please hear me out and take it in a positive way....
Your brother is ill. He has much on his mind like medical care, future, and plain old fear. If you could, put your past aside and reach out to him in this dire time. Keep reaching out to him even if he doesn't recipricate. One thing you don't ever want is regret....JMHO
My parents have several nice antiques in their house. I have a cousin who, every time she is around, always makes it a point to tell us when something happens to my parents she will make it well worth it for us to sell her a dry sink they have. This has been going on for years. It's like she is a buzzard circling around overhead waiting for my parents to die! I agree with my exwife about this. (Yeah, EX wife. Shows this has been going on for years!) She said she would rather have that antique dry sink chopped up for kindling that to sell it to my cousin, no matter what she offers!
As others have said Gizmo you could be talking about my family except my Dad is still around and is an enabler to my 2 sisters. My mother passed away 19 years ago and our family has never been the same.
After years of depression and heartache over the situation I have realized I can't continue beating my head against a brick wall. Good Luck to all of you with crazy families.
Annoyingly disfunctional and plain evil to the point where I disowned them. I don't need anybody like that to drag me down. When I ran into SEVERAL different physical health problems from fractured eye bone that could lead to permanent physical damages, to a misalligned neck bone which screwed my entire body, suffered major depression and needed them most, they pretty much rubbed salt on my wound and added more insult to injury then they gave me a kick in the stomach and spat on my face. They offered NO assistance (financially, emotionally.. the works) ut had money to go on vacation, had absolutely NO interest in my symptoms or the fact that I was throwing away 3 years of my life (MY PRIME) due to these issues and pretty much, through their actions, told me to rot away in my room which I did for those years because I was so distraught from the effects of all these issues that I could not work.
F*** THEM!
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