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Actually I just want to cut off myself from my father. But he is the head of the family, so there is no way for me to not see him and still see my mother and younger brother. I graduated college in December, and there is now an opportunity for me to live and work in another city at $60,000/yr. I think once I leave, I would not come back for many years. Do you think I'm being selfish and cruel to do this?
I don't know about cruel, but I don't see a reason to cut yourself off completely. Family is family, but to move away is not cruel, but I don't see why you wouldn't go back and visit?
Actually I just want to cut off myself from my father. But he is the head of the family, so there is no way for me to not see him and still see my mother and younger brother. I graduated college in December, and there is now an opportunity for me to live and work in another city at $60,000/yr. I think once I leave, I would not come back for many years. Do you think I'm being selfish and cruel to do this?
If they were good parents, and did all they could to raise you, then yes, it's cruel to cut yourself off.
However, if you had abusive parents, or parents who did not care about your general well being, then by all means cut them out of your life if you feel you need to do that.
Actually I just want to cut off myself from my father. But he is the head of the family, so there is no way for me to not see him and still see my mother and younger brother. I graduated college in December, and there is now an opportunity for me to live and work in another city at $60,000/yr. I think once I leave, I would not come back for many years. Do you think I'm being selfish and cruel to do this?
Is there a good reason to cut yourself off from your Father?
I don't know about cruel, but I don't see a reason to cut yourself off completely. Family is family, but to move away is not cruel, but I don't see why you wouldn't go back and visit?
F&&&K family! I have been treated better by strangers then by certain people within my own "family."
It depends on the circumstances. If you're just moving away, there's no need to cut yourself off. If there are other issues, then no, it may not be cruel.
In my case, I cut my dad out of my life 6-7 years ago & am much happier & a more confidant person because of it.
Actually I just want to cut off myself from my father. But he is the head of the family, so there is no way for me to not see him and still see my mother and younger brother. I graduated college in December, and there is now an opportunity for me to live and work in another city at $60,000/yr. I think once I leave, I would not come back for many years. Do you think I'm being selfish and cruel to do this?
How can you expect anyone to provide a meaningful response? You have provided no reasons behind your desire to do what you have suggested. How could we possibly even hazard a guess? Give me your reasons, and I'll give you a considered response.
How can you expect anyone to provide a meaningful response? You have provided no reasons behind your desire to do what you have suggested. How could we possibly even hazard a guess? Give me your reasons, and I'll give you a considered response.
Are you moving for employment opportunity or your family, maybe both.
There may be good reason for the feelings toward your father, distance may put some perspective and give you a chance to heal wounds. Does being the head of the family mean your mother and brother couldn't visit with you outside the home if you came back for a visit?
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Actually I just want to cut off myself from my father. But he is the head of the family, so there is no way for me to not see him and still see my mother and younger brother. I graduated college in December, and there is now an opportunity for me to live and work in another city at $60,000/yr. I think once I leave, I would not come back for many years. Do you think I'm being selfish and cruel to do this?
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