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I'm still getting through young lady, but I think I'm a miss by now lol. I'm 20 in 1 month. I don't even wanna be a miss, forget ma'am. I'm gonna miss being "young lady!".
I'm not sure how I feel about it. I absolutely hated when I somehow went from Miss to Ma'am, but I'm used to it now. I'm not sure there's anything else I would prefer from a stranger.
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Originally Posted by Raena77
You know you are getting older when you are called it.
Yep....yep.........I remember the first time a guy called me Ma'am.......I was at a gas station.
It was a hard slap of reality........I was getting old.
I guess I'm just difficult but I hate being called ma'am, hated being called miss. I also hate being referred to as "Ms." + last name. The reason for that is I've always found it distasteful how our society thinks its ok to identify and categorize women based on whether they are married or not, yet for men they all get called "Mr." regardless of marital status. At the same time I hate the young generation (and those my generation who try to act younger) calling me "dude". I seriously want to smack someone in the mouth especially females when they "dude" me. Actually its kinda weird because only females seem to dude other females and the young males I've talked with don't for some reason. What's up with that?
Just call me by my first name...and don't give me a nickname that ends in -y or -ie because that sounds immature for a grown adult. Really my first given name is fine by itself!
I presume you don't wear a name tag everywhere, and most people are not capable of divining other people's first names. So, for those people who don't know you well enough to refer to you by your first name and/or don't even know it, how would you suggest they address you?
I presume you don't wear a name tag everywhere, and most people are not capable of divining other people's first names. So, for those people who don't know you well enough to refer to you by your first name and/or don't even know it, how would you suggest they address you?
People should just look you in the eye and speak directly at you that way you know yes they are speaking to you. I find no need to address strangers in town. If I want them to know I am being courteous I generally look at them and smile and speak to them without using pronouns. I don't sir so why should others ma'am? If a stranger holds a door open for me which I think is very polite versus letting go of it in my face then I simply say "thank you" and smile. Like someone else on here mentioned I've noticed here in the South sweetie, sir, ma'am, young lady, doll & babe are often tacked onto the end of a sentence so they can be used condescendingly. Its not necessarily politeness that causes people to use titles.
Yeah.. being in the military, you have to use the "Sir's and Maam's", sometimes also quite prevalent by 'Southerner's". Suppose it's a habit that's hard to break in that regard, but I don't see how hard it is not to even use any specific form of address when talking with someone. If you work in a store, when someone comes up to you to ask for something, all you need to do is put on that helpful, inquisitive look on your face and say something like, "how can I help you today?"
Call me ma'am and I'll refer you to a good optometrist.
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