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I didn't have time to read all the replies to this topic, but here is my opinion, I am very close mouthed about what happens in our family, I bf'd my kids longer than most people and got sick and tired of "the looks" I would get when the topic came up, so learned early on that there are just some things that are better left unsaid. This being said if co-sleeping works for you and your family, then do it, you are the only ones that live in your house and you have to do what works best for your family.
I don't know it never bothered me as a kid or a teen....but i have euro/hippy parents so we didn't have the typical american upbringing. I actually found it sweet that they still were nuts for each other after all those years .
It sounds like so many here had the typical American upbringing... with typical Puritan prudishness, apparently. You're making different choices than many here would, but if it's working for you and yours, awesome! The thing is - you WILL be misunderstood in public, even in some more liberal circles, because your choices are so far outside the norm. Either keep it quiet within your mom's group or be prepared to be somewhat ostracized. It's very unfortunate that's how it is, I wish folks could mind their own beeswax and not judge what they know nothing about, but unfortunately, there are societal norms and any time you step outside of those, you take the chance of being misunderstood.
Make sure your kids have strong social support - get to unschooling conferences and gatherings as much as you can, be around other open minded folks as much as possible, and they'll be fine.
I think the Puritans with their no-play, let's-pretend-like-we-don't-have-bodies ethos ruined a lot of what is good about being human. Yay for you, you've stepped outside that box! But don't expect that others won't react negatively.
It sounds like so many here had the typical American upbringing... with typical Puritan prudishness, apparently. You're making different choices than many here would, but if it's working for you and yours, awesome! The thing is - you WILL be misunderstood in public, even in some more liberal circles, because your choices are so far outside the norm. Either keep it quiet within your mom's group or be prepared to be somewhat ostracized. It's very unfortunate that's how it is, I wish folks could mind their own beeswax and not judge what they know nothing about, but unfortunately, there are societal norms and any time you step outside of those, you take the chance of being misunderstood.
Make sure your kids have strong social support - get to unschooling conferences and gatherings as much as you can, be around other open minded folks as much as possible, and they'll be fine.
I think the Puritans with their no-play, let's-pretend-like-we-don't-have-bodies ethos ruined a lot of what is good about being human. Yay for you, you've stepped outside that box! But don't expect that others won't react negatively.
It's very unfortunate that's how it is, I wish folks could mind their own beeswax and not judge what they know nothing about, but unfortunately, there are societal norms and any time you step outside of those, you take the chance of being misunderstood.
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Well, the OP has dished out her own judgements of others around here, asking a poster why she bothered getting married if finding time alone with her spouse isn't a priority right now because they have small children.
I would venture to say that if one does not want candid opinions from others on a particular subject they ought not be soliciting them on a message board.
I would venture to say that if one does not want candid opinions from others on a particular subject they ought not be soliciting them on a message board.
I was referring to her OP, where she talked about her friends being judgy, not her experience here.
Make sure your kids have strong social support - get to unschooling conferences and gatherings as much as you can, be around other open minded folks as much as possible, and they'll be fine.
So, one of the tenets of homeschooling is it's completely normal to have sex in front of your children?
Whatever.
Anyone who is actually cosleeping w/ impressionable aged children & having sex w/ their sig other w/ the kids right there...highly doubt what others think has much of an impact & more that this would be a heck of thread debate.
Anyone who is actually cosleeping w/ impressionable aged children & having sex w/ their sig other w/ the kids right there...highly doubt what others think has much of an impact & more that this would be a heck of thread debate.
As long as they keep them from the evils of teams sports
Well, the OP has dished out her own judgements of others around here, asking a poster why she bothered getting married if finding time alone with her spouse isn't a priority right now because they have small children.
I would venture to say that if one does not want candid opinions from others on a particular subject they ought not be soliciting them on a message board.
Oh so asking a question is dishing out an opinion...got ya, maybe you should tell webster that. I asked her because i am curious why she feels that way is all, and don't really care how she lives her family life as long as it makes her happy. I also don't mind the opinions who don't agree with me either ....i want candid responses. I am aware i am a handful to handle lol, but i am really not that bad.
Oh so asking a question is dishing out an opinion...got ya, maybe you should tell webster that. I asked her because i am curious why she feels that way is all, and don't really care how she lives her family life as long as it makes her happy. I also don't mind the opinions who don't agree with me either ....i want candid responses. I am aware i am a handful to handle lol, but i am really not that bad.
Dont ask if you dont wanna know......the thread you started in the Relationships forum just confirmed what I suspected.
Not judging, mind you.....just dont drag stuff for public inspection out and NOT expect people to judge you.
BTW, why DID you start that other thread?
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then EVERYONE I know is a total prude.
