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After you quoted my post, I edited it to include: You said 40 year olds cringe at the thoughts they had as a teen.
It wasn't meant as an all-inclusive statement.
As a trivial example: There are rock bands I just loved as a teen. Some of them I still do. Others I will never admit to ever owning a (vinyl) album of theirs out of shame.
Not to go all Grandpa Simpson on you, but it will happen to you.
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But he's not cringing at the plan he made as a teen.
Just because that worked for him, doesn't mean it will for you.
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And based on what he's shared on the forum, we pretty much have the same reasons we never want kids.
Reasons that for you, may very well change over time. You have no way of knowing until you travel through time - forwards.
This is no more profound or complicated than saying that you should just keep your options open. Life is full of unexpected surprises and delicious ironies.
And the fact that I think about the future when it comes to tattoos is a sign that I think about the future when it comes to other stuff (like not having kids)
Tatoo regret LOL.
Fortunately for me, that trend didn't start until after I stopped being a teen and had a real job, so I never got one.
I'll be happy when that trend dies out again. Tatoos belong on sailors, hobos, hookers and drag queens.
A fashion is nothing but an induced epidemic.
George Bernard Shaw
I have been reading this thread and wondering why it is catching fire and I realized that it is because some people are saying "never" (literally or figuratively) about things in the future.
I am more of a "Never say never" kind of person. I didn't used to be. I used to be a never person (especially as a kid/teen). As I aged, I realized that you can't say never. You also can't make guarantees in life. I can't guarantee anything because you don't know what life will bring you. If you guarantee your boss that you will have a report to him by 5:00, the power could go out. You broke that guarantee. If you guarantee that you will never have kids, you may grow older and your outlook on life in general may change and you may want kids.
There are no guarantees in life. Not about having or not having kids. Not about graduating high school. Not about being alive tomorrow to be able to fulfill your guarantees.
My brood has just increased. And I didn't have to breed OR be a horse, to do it!
My ex is technically a father I suppose. He never bothered with the boys really, he's a drunk, never paid child support, I yanked the boys from him and nary a peep or complaint. My sons won't talk to him. They call him by his first name when mentioned and not Dad. We are not even quite sure if he is currently alive or dead. Yet, he can call himself a father.
You've been their Great Aunt for 7 minutes. I would qualify you as a better father for them and you've never met them. And you're a woman.
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