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Old 07-17-2011, 08:46 PM
 
Location: Wyoming
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Default Having a family, worth it or not?

Okay, so I have already posted a thread asking about the pros and cons of marriage but this is something that didn't really come up on that thread. Please understand that I am not asking for dating advice, I am not feeling sorry for myself, and I am not unhappy. I am just asking a questions. The question is:

Is having a family worth it? In other words, is it worth it to have kids? Would you still do it if you could start over again? The reason I am asking this is just curiosity. Like the marriage question I asked earlier, I am just asking if I am missing anything. I would appreciate input from anyone, whether you have kids or not, if your kids are good, if your kids are lousy, whoever.
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Old 07-17-2011, 09:56 PM
 
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Everyones different...but for me...having children was definately worth it...although trying at times(to say the least) , now that they're all grown up...they have become delightful friends.
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Old 07-17-2011, 10:01 PM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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In my case, this question ties in with the marriage question. Yes, I am very glad I had children. I reluctantly got married, but after marriage I wanted badly to have children. It took a long time, but we had two sons, and the boys have made me deliriously happy.

But the fact that I have children and are so close to them also keeps me stuck in a bad marriage. And that is really hard to deal with on a daily basis.
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Old 07-17-2011, 10:40 PM
 
Location: Hawaii
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It's the hardest thing I have ever done but also the most fulfilling. I have two children, a boy and a girl. They have both grown into wonderful individuals.

There were plenty of times that were difficult and added gray hairs to my head but having children is without question, the best thing I ever did.
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Old 07-17-2011, 11:31 PM
 
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Depends on the individual. For me, marriage may be worth it but kids on the other hand, no. Some may call me selfish, but it's not worth giving up my freedom for.
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Old 07-18-2011, 12:31 AM
 
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Everyone I know tells me that being a parent is the best thing they've ever done. They love being parents and that raising children is the most difficult but at the same time, is the most rewarding job/role/thing in the world. So yes, I would definitely say having a family is 100% worth it. Even people I know that didn't want children in the first place are glad to have had kids.

I'm 18, but I can't wait to start a family. I'm very excited about having one someday. I want 4 kids and would like to start at around 22 or 23 but it'd have to be after I get married though.
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Old 07-18-2011, 12:41 AM
 
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And CancerianMoonPrincess... I'm not "poking" at you when I mentioned about people I know that didn't want kids having them. So don't think that!
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Old 07-18-2011, 08:09 AM
 
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Let me start by saying that I was always one of these guys that said I would never get married, Never have kids. I wanted my money to myself and my freedom. As I got older I realized that true happiness is not a big house, nice cars and lots of money. All of those things are nice to have but I wasn't any happier with them than without them.

My current GF has a boy that will be 7 soon. He's a bit of a handful pretty much all the time and we have our differences. his behavior often causes issues between his mother and I as we have different views of discipline. I was brought up in a strict home with rules. I knew what was right or wrong and I knew exactly where the line was and what happened if I stepped over it. I turned out just fine and I'm fairly successful. I attribute that to my upbringing.

She on the other hand was raised where her parents never said no. She got everything she wanted if she screamed loud enough. Her idea of punishment is sending the kid to his room for a time out. She has done well for herself but made a lot of bad decisions along the way. Again, I attribute that to her upbringing.


Now with all that being said.. Is it worth the arguing, fighting, daily battles with the kid???? Hell YES it is.. He's not even my kid but I love him like he is.... He makes me crazy 50% of the time but the other 50% is wonderful... It took me many years to come around and I was open to the idea of kids long before the current GF and I got together. YOU have to be ready for a family.. If you're not life will be miserable. Don't get forced into a family, marriage or a relationship with children until you're ready...

When all is said and done... YES it's worth it.
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Old 07-18-2011, 08:51 AM
 
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And CancerianMoonPrincess... I'm not "poking" at you when I mentioned about people I know that didn't want kids having them. So don't think that!
It's ok. I wasn't thinking that. At least you don't make jokes like SOME posters do about me falling for a moon prince and having septuplets.
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Old 07-18-2011, 09:02 AM
 
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Work won't visit you when you are old.
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