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No I remember my children not getting invited to parties in preschool. I remember other kids not being invited to parties in preschool. They cared in direct proportion to the big deal their parents made out of it.
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I also always did the everybody gets a valentine,
Valentines are done in class. Invites needn't be. I think it would be really rude to send invites to only some TO the classroom.
I also always did the everybody gets a valentine, everbody goes to the party thing when my daughter was in preschool too.
She wanted me to. I clearly remember her being concerned that we invited one particular girl. I asked her why and she said that Salone cried because she didnt get to go to another girls party. She was 4. They notice and they care.
That, plus, I couldn't get my son to narrow down who his friends were. Through kindergarten they all played together. He literally told me he was friends with everyone.
No I remember my children not getting invited to parties in preschool. I remember other kids not being invited to parties in preschool. They cared in direct proportion to the big deal their parents made out of it.
Valentines are done in class. Invites needn't be. I think it would be really rude to send invites to only some TO the classroom.
Noted that other schools may be different, but in my daughter's class they have their birthdays up on a calendar and talk about them on the day. So it's pretty obvious who's having a party and who isn't, regardless of what the parents say. They discuss it at school.
And of course, if she wasn't invited, and other kids in her class were, I wouldn't make a big deal of it in front of her, I'm not that dense. I would, however, think the parents were a bit rude and insensitive.
I don't know anyone's address, and I'm not going to pick and choose four year old kids. In our class, either everyone gets invited or nobody.
We're talking preschool here, not later on when they have solid friends. Invite everyone or don't bother.
My kids had friends even in preschool. They got along with lots of the kids, but they did have several they played with on a regular basis (in our neighborhood). Those were the kids they chose to invite.
Interestingly, my ds chose 3 girls and 2 boys. 1 girl and 1 boy were not in his preschool, but lived close to us and had been in our babysitting co-op.
My dd was much more social and went to a school were kids were not neighborhood kids, so she had the whole k class, but that was an exception for our family.
If you don't give the invites out at school, then you don't need to invite every child.
My kids had friends even in preschool. They got along with lots of the kids, but they did have several they played with on a regular basis (in our neighborhood). Those were the kids they chose to invite.
Interestingly, my ds chose 3 girls and 2 boys. 1 girl and 1 boy were not in his preschool, but lived close to us and had been in our babysitting co-op.
My dd was much more social and went to a school were kids were not neighborhood kids, so she had the whole k class, but that was an exception for our family.
If you don't give the invites out at school, then you don't need to invite every child.
I'm sorry, but I disagree. In a preschool class, I still think leaving kids out is rude.
I just realized though, that class in America means something different than it does where I'm from. I'm referring to the actual class that your kid is in, not the whole school, or grade. Just to be clear.
I'm sorry, but I disagree. In a preschool class, I still think leaving kids out is rude.
I just realized though, that class in America means something different than it does where I'm from. I'm referring to the actual class that your kid is in, not the whole school, or grade. Just to be clear.
So am I. I did not want 20 preschoolers at my house. No one got bent out of shape by having only 4 or 5 kids.
It's not rude to leave kids out when you want a smaller party. It's rude to think that every parent has to invite all 20 kids at that age, imo. Also at 3 or 4, you probably would need to have all the parents too. With 4 or 5 kids we knew well, the kids could be there without the parents.
We only had family parties up until now, too. But being five, and that she's now in preschool, and given that we live in the city with no room to host her new friends, the ability to have a party at one of those dirty kid party facilities is actually a blessing.
I doubt we'll do this every year, but I personally think five is a special birthday, and worth a bit of a do.
All respect to those who think otherwise.
Honestly, if you think it's worth a big to do then knock yourself out. My good friends have a big to do at a kid facility since the age of 3. I personally don't get it but that doesn't mean I disparage their choices. I didn't mean to imply otherwise with my "nasty, dirty" comment. I just can't help being skeeved out at those places. It's my issue not yours or theirs. So I take my kid, let him have fun, and bring the hand sanitizer. And I'm usually not a germophobe either (except in those places and doctors offices).
So am I. I did not want 20 preschoolers at my house. No one got bent out of shape by having only 4 or 5 kids.
It's not rude to leave kids out when you want a smaller party. It's rude to think that every parent has to invite all 20 kids at that age, imo. Also at 3 or 4, you probably would need to have all the parents too. With 4 or 5 kids we knew well, the kids could be there without the parents.
Is 20 preschoolers the norm for a class? And they don't all come, surely?
And yes, you do need to invite the parents too.
I guess it's different if you are close friends with 3 or 4 of the kids in preschool outside of the class. We aren't, so maybe that's why I don't understand not inviting all of them.
But that's what I mean by having a party for friends and family, or for your preschool class, one or the other.
Perhaps you guys just have a very different preschool experience than I do. It's entirely possible.
Is 20 preschoolers the norm for a class? And they don't all come, surely?
And yes, you do need to invite the parents too.
I guess it's different if you are close friends with 3 or 4 of the kids in preschool outside of the class. We aren't, so maybe that's why I don't understand not inviting all of them.
But that's what I mean by having a party for friends and family, or for your preschool class, one or the other.
Perhaps you guys just have a very different preschool experience than I do. It's entirely possible.
Most classes at our preschool were about 9 kids. 2 classrooms were big, so they had 18 kids.
Honestly, if you think it's worth a big to do then knock yourself out. My good friends have a big to do at a kid facility since the age of 3. I personally don't get it but that doesn't mean I disparage their choices. I didn't mean to imply otherwise with my "nasty, dirty" comment. I just can't help being skeeved out at those places. It's my issue not yours or theirs. So I take my kid, let him have fun, and bring the hand sanitizer. And I'm usually not a germophobe either (except in those places and doctors offices).
Thanks, I appreciate that. The kids will enjoy it, hopefully. I bet your kid would really appreciate it too, if he knew how much you were skeeved.
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