Is it normal for boys to swear at girls in 5th and 6th grade? (smart, daughter)
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You have to keep in mind that public school is a highly abnormal situation historically and doesn't prepare most people for real life very well. Children spend 6-8 hours per day with a very narrow selection of "peers". Much of their after-school time is spent with peers as well. This group, and not parents, becomes the predominant influence on their character and values. Life after school isn't like that at all.
I agree that parental control has to be gradually relinquished for the child to develop normally. But it's like anything else - learning to swim, let's say - you start out with lots of control and care and gradually release them to the entire pool when they fully understand the dangers and know their own strengths and limits.
That's not a bad metaphor. But someone has to choose the parameters of the project to begin with. Is it washing windows 20 stories high? Or maybe painting a fence in the backyard? The parents decide the when, where, and what of the project; the level of danger, the size of the scaffold, who the co-workers are, the training required, the use of equipment, etc.
This thread is not the place for your anecdotal generalizations about public school. You're hijacking.
The OP never said what kind of school she attends anyway.
This thread is not the place for your anecdotal generalizations about public school. You're hijacking.
The OP never said what kind of school she attends anyway.
Of course it is. The vulgar, peer-dominated culture of public education - and this girl's school in particular - is the source of the problem. Removing her from the source will most likely remove the problem. Unless there are similar problems in the home, which seems doubtful. Educational options are in no way off topic.
Good point, what would you do? Would you allow this communication to continue?
I would help my child learn to say no and continue to monitor communication. Kids need to learn to deal with this sort of thing. Boys aren't going to stop asking her for videos, pictures and stuff like that. She needs to learn to say no.
Of course it is. The vulgar, peer-dominated culture of public education - and this girl's school in particular - is the source of the problem. Removing her from the source will most likely remove the problem. Unless there are similar problems in the home, which seems doubtful. Educational options are in no way off topic.
You know nothing about the girl's school.
Your generalizations are SO obtuse that they only serve to distract.
Of course it is. The vulgar, peer-dominated culture of public education - and this girl's school in particular - is the source of the problem. Removing her from the source will most likely remove the problem. Unless there are similar problems in the home, which seems doubtful. Educational options are in no way off topic.
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