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Old 10-25-2007, 07:00 AM
 
Location: Waipahu, HI
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I am in my early 30s, live in Hawaii, and still live at home with my mother. Other young adults I associate with still live at home with their parents. I hear that it is common for adults to live at home with their parents in Hawaii because the cost of living is so high that it is almost impossible to live on your own.

I am also a special needs person because I am visually impaired. I am totally blind in my right eye and have limited vision in my left eye. I am therefore legally blind. In today's competitive world, I find it hard to get many jobs due to my disability. That is another reason why I'm still living at home. I also took longer to finish college because I took fewer courses per semester to avoid too much eyestrain from required readings. I also never ventured to live in a dorm because I didn't think I'd be comfortable separating from my folks and feeling lost as a legally-blind person.

Are there any adults on the mainland still living at home with their parents due to an exceptionally high cost of living? Also, does being a special needs person factor into living at home? Your honest and candid answers and insights are welcome.
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Old 10-25-2007, 12:43 PM
 
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Hello

My sister still lives at home and she is in her late 20's. The high cost of living is definately a huge cause of her current living situation. My parents want to make sure that she has enough money in the bank so that she can start her life and not have to take out any loans or be in debt.
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Old 10-25-2007, 02:01 PM
 
Location: Orlando
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I am in my early 30s, live in Hawaii, and still live at home with my mother. Other young adults I associate with still live at home with their parents. I hear that it is common for adults to live at home with their parents in Hawaii because the cost of living is so high that it is almost impossible to live on your own.

I am also a special needs person because I am visually impaired. I am totally blind in my right eye and have limited vision in my left eye. I am therefore legally blind. In today's competitive world, I find it hard to get many jobs due to my disability. That is another reason why I'm still living at home. I also took longer to finish college because I took fewer courses per semester to avoid too much eyestrain from required readings. I also never ventured to live in a dorm because I didn't think I'd be comfortable separating from my folks and feeling lost as a legally-blind person.

Are there any adults on the mainland still living at home with their parents due to an exceptionally high cost of living? Also, does being a special needs person factor into living at home? Your honest and candid answers and insights are welcome.

Aloha....there are plenty of adults living at home with their parents for just the same reasons you have stated.
Some because of the cost of living.
Some because of physical limitations
Some to take care of an ailing parents
and Some because of reasons that would create a whole new thread.
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Old 10-25-2007, 02:40 PM
 
Location: in drifts of snow wherever you go
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I am in my early 30s, live in Hawaii, and still live at home with my mother. Other young adults I associate with still live at home with their parents. I hear that it is common for adults to live at home with their parents in Hawaii because the cost of living is so high that it is almost impossible to live on your own.

I am also a special needs person because I am visually impaired. I am totally blind in my right eye and have limited vision in my left eye. I am therefore legally blind. In today's competitive world, I find it hard to get many jobs due to my disability. That is another reason why I'm still living at home. I also took longer to finish college because I took fewer courses per semester to avoid too much eyestrain from required readings. I also never ventured to live in a dorm because I didn't think I'd be comfortable separating from my folks and feeling lost as a legally-blind person.

Are there any adults on the mainland still living at home with their parents due to an exceptionally high cost of living? Also, does being a special needs person factor into living at home? Your honest and candid answers and insights are welcome.
An the U.S. people often attach a stigma to living at home. But we've got a lot of warped values that get people into a lot of trouble financially -- such as buying gigantic houses and expensive clothes and nights on the town. You do what makes you comfortable and helps you save money. In other cultures, children live with parents for a lot longer.

Greenie
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Old 10-27-2007, 07:14 AM
 
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Living with parents can be a wonderful thing. However, I will post another position. Make sure it is not out of fear. If something should happen to your parents, make sure you have the skills to live a full and productive life on your own.

Ensure that if they are gone on a three week trip, for example, that you can successfully live a complete life without them there.

Your message appears to contain some "fear" about not being able to exist in the outside world for reasons other than money. Resolve this because your parents will not always be there and you will feel for confident overall.
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Old 10-29-2007, 08:14 PM
 
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Living with parents can be a wonderful thing. However, I will post another position. Make sure it is not out of fear. If something should happen to your parents, make sure you have the skills to live a full and productive life on your own.

Ensure that if they are gone on a three week trip, for example, that you can successfully live a complete life without them there.

Your message appears to contain some "fear" about not being able to exist in the outside world for reasons other than money. Resolve this because your parents will not always be there and you will feel for confident overall.
I second this quote
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Old 11-01-2007, 04:34 PM
 
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Hi there,

There is nothing wrong or uncommon with your situation, especially from Hawaii, and especially since you have a vision impairment. I also am legally blind, even with corrected vision. Jobs also don't come easy to us, and statistics say that at least 70% of legally blind or totally blind individuals are un-employed although they want to be.
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Old 01-10-2008, 11:17 AM
 
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My 26yr. old Daughter still lives at home. She has a son that is 6 which I love very much. I feel she needs to be out on her own but I think she knows it's much easier to stay here. She has a full time job and pay's some rent but not much. She doesn't have to pay for food or baby sitting. Am I wrong to ask her to try to make it on her own?
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Old 01-10-2008, 11:22 AM
 
Location: Oz
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My 26yr. old Daughter still lives at home. She has a son that is 6 which I love very much. I feel she needs to be out on her own but I think she knows it's much easier to stay here. She has a full time job and pay's some rent but not much. She doesn't have to pay for food or baby sitting. Am I wrong to ask her to try to make it on her own?
Don't be an enabler, Mom. If she's working full time and especially not paying for babysitting, she is capable of having her own place. Give her a reasonable time limit to find her own place, perhaps a two or three months.
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Old 01-10-2008, 11:25 AM
 
Location: friendswood texas
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My 26yr. old Daughter still lives at home. She has a son that is 6 which I love very much. I feel she needs to be out on her own but I think she knows it's much easier to stay here. She has a full time job and pay's some rent but not much. She doesn't have to pay for food or baby sitting. Am I wrong to ask her to try to make it on her own?
When I was first married my husband and I and two of our children through circumstance were forced to move in with my mother. We lived with her for several years. While we didn't pay rent, I did all of the household chores, cooking, cleaning, laundry, yard work. I bought the groceries for everyone. Yes my mother babysat and she paid the bills for the house but we did everything else. We did repairs to home she needed done, ie fixing the roof, building a new garage, painting etc... We contributed.

If you are feeling impinged upon you may sit down and discuss this frankly with her. Have her start to contribute financially to the house, groceries etc.. If you don't start soon she will continue doing as she is doing. Good luck to you.

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