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This is why paternity tests should be automatic and mandatory. I don't see a reason why asking for either would be a dealbreaker, no matter who asks. Statistics and observation of every day life tells all that people in general cannot be trusted. The amount of cheating that goes on, coupled with most making complete mockery of marriage vows, make it all a necessity. And then you have your "progressive" sources that favor cheating and stepping out on your husband/wife in the media. Upside to infidelity? Sure thing, according to Hanna Rosin (shocker)
How about logging on to TAM coping with infidelity forums and reading thousands of stories of those who claimed full trust, yet found out their husband/wife was banging 6 people since the day they were married. Oddly enough, the ratio of wives cheating in that forum is substantialy higher than the opposite. Coincidence? Doubt it.
I don't let other people's relationships dictate the trust and love I have for my husband. I don't need to read stories of the wrongdoings of others because they don't affect me. I trust my husband and he trusts me. Our relationship is between the two of us. Two of my friends recently found out that their husbands were/are cheating on them. Am I now going to search my husband's texts, emails, etc. and look for signs of his infidelity? No. Because I trust him. HE is my husband - not anyone else. If you know that it is impossible for you to trust someone else - then that's on you.
And don't tell you SO about it! When she comes to you with the great news that she is preganant, you can ask her with a straight face, who the father is.... That's how you play your hand right
See - this is the kind of attitude I don't understand. If you are incapable of trusting women - why would you ever have a relationship with one of them? Trust is a two way street. If you don't trust her - then she shouldn't trust you either. Yet, when she expressed that she didn't trust you - you blamed it on her. It doesn't make sense to me.
But seriously - if you don't trust the person you are with - you shouldn't be having children with them. And if you are unable to trust anyone because of things that have happened to other people - you shouldn't be in a relationship at all. If you are going to demand a paternity test even though you have a loving and trusting relationship - be prepared to no longer have a loving and trusting relationship. Just like a wife demanding her husband take an STD test out of the blue should be prepared to no longer have a loving and trusting relationship.
I suppose I need scientific evidence to believe something. The days when you could simply trust someone's word are long gone.
I might also ask my mother what she thinks about this.
I suppose I need scientific evidence to believe something. The days when you could simply trust someone's word are long gone.
I might also ask my mother what she thinks about this.
It's not just about trusting someone's word. I trust my husband because he is deserving of my trust. He feels the same about me. All of our words, actions, feelings, etc. have led us to this place.
I find it curious that you are doubting your mother's fidelity when it was your father that appears to have been the untrustworthy one. That's really odd.
I find it curious that you are doubting your mother's fidelity when it was your father that appears to have been the untrustworthy one. That's really odd.
I'm not questioning anything myself. I'm questioning if he questioned himself about it at the time. Obviously none of it would matter now after so many years but I'm just curious.
It's not just about trusting someone's word. I trust my husband because he is deserving of my trust. He feels the same about me. All of our words, actions, feelings, etc. have led us to this place.
I find it curious that you are doubting your mother's fidelity when it was your father that appears to have been the untrustworthy one. That's really odd.
I don't think it's worth your energy or time Dewdrop, some folks are just beyond help
See - this is the kind of attitude I don't understand. If you are incapable of trusting women - why would you ever have a relationship with one of them? Trust is a two way street. If you don't trust her - then she shouldn't trust you either. Yet, when she expressed that she didn't trust you - you blamed it on her. It doesn't make sense to me.
Im simply smart and experienced. There is nothing more to it.
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