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Tiredness, hunger and boredom are all things that are not inevitable. Go out after the nap, bring a snack, a favorite small toy, break your errands into smaller more manageable trips, include a stop at the park to work off some energy, etc. Sure there will be an occasional one off but for the most part the 'bad' behavior falls back on the parents. There's a difference between can't and won't.
In a perfect world we'd all do our errands around our kid's schedules and people who can't tolerate others for even the relatively short time it takes to stand in line at the post office a couple of days a week, would hire personal assistants to do it for them. The real world is often less than ideal.
I have no doubt that occasionally, there are out of control children behaving badly while the parent is unconcerned and doing nothing. When one claims that it happens every. single. time., sees "them" everywhere, and feels the need to address parents in general about the situation, then I lean toward believing that it has more to do with the eye of the beholder.
In a perfect world we'd all do our errands around our kid's schedules and people who can't tolerate others for even the relatively short time it takes to stand in line at the post office a couple of days a week, would hire personal assistants to do it for them. The real world is often less than ideal.
I have no doubt that occasionally, there are out of control children behaving badly while the parent is unconcerned and doing nothing. When one claims that it happens every. single. time., sees "them" everywhere, and feels the need to address parents in general about the situation, then I lean toward believing that it has more to do with the eye of the beholder.
Yes I agree with you.
When my older son starts getting worked up I've sent him out to the car to chill out and refocus. But that tactic brings problems too when people call the cops for leaving your child in the car. It honestly does not matter what you do, you will get the stink eye, people will complain about crying kids - even if you do take them out of the store because, "Why do ***I*** have to listen to YOUR crying kid?," etc.
Some people just believe they should not ever be disturbed. They don't want their Holy Grail of a shopping trip at Fred Meyer ruined by some little baby. Its almost funny when you think about it.
I really have a hard time believing it is as bad as the OP states. They might just be extra sensitive to it.
Yes, I agree with this. I have seen elderly men berate servers at restaurants. It doesn't mean that I think all elderly men must be controlled in a restaurant setting. I have also had three elderly men accost me as a teen and young adult.
These are all singular instances, and don't reflect on the population of elderly men. Sure, they stand out and were horrible.
I am sure the OP is extremely irritated by small children and every instance is magnified times five. Yes, some children are unruly. Some adults are too.
OP I suggest going when the post office opens so the lines are shorter and the parents haven't arrived yet. If that's not possible then go during the early afternoon when small kids are napping and larger kids are in school.
You seem to think most people can pick and choose when to run errands, pay bills, get groceries, etc. You're wrong. Most of us live on a tight schedule trying to meet all of our obligations.
No I don't think people get to pick and choose all the time, however I do see far too many parents who simply don't take the kids into consideration at all and do things when it is convenient for themselves. Hanging around the store for an hour, shopping for nonessentials when they have a sick or tired child with them is ridiculous, but I see it far too frequently.
I don't have a problem with kids, I have a problem with self centered parents who are oblivious to their kids and to others around them when their kids decide to misbehave.
No I don't think people get to pick and choose all the time, however I do see far too many parents who simply don't take the kids into consideration at all and do things when it is convenient for themselves. Hanging around the store for an hour, shopping for nonessentials when they have a sick or tired child with them is ridiculous, but I see it far too frequently.
For heavens sake how do you know they are shopping for non-essentials? This post illustrates damned if you do, damned if you don't perfectly. Other people would say people who shop around their kids' schedules are coddling the kids.
For heavens sake how do you know they are shopping for non-essentials? This post illustrates damned if you do, damned if you don't perfectly. Other people would say people who shop around their kids' schedules are coddling the kids.
Because I work in retail and I check them out. Last time I checked nail polish, make up, greeting cards, sandals, candy, cokes, cheap toys, etc etc were not exactly essentials. Why do you have such a hard time believing there are a good number of parents who do such things?
Can I reiterate....you can't control other people (I.e. When they shop, how they parent, a crying baby etc) but you can control how you react. Are you going to get wound up, or learn to let it go? Your life, your choice. Do you want to walk around irritated? Or relaxed and maybe even joyful. You can choose. You can't control.
No I don't think people get to pick and choose all the time, however I do see far too many parents who simply don't take the kids into consideration at all and do things when it is convenient for themselves. Hanging around the store for an hour, shopping for nonessentials when they have a sick or tired child with them is ridiculous, but I see it far too frequently.
I don't have a problem with kids, I have a problem with self centered parents who are oblivious to their kids and to others around them when their kids decide to misbehave.
Oh FFS! Do you really think those parents want to be at the store with a cranky child? This subject has been beat to death is this forum. Life is inconvenient. It is inconvenient to have a sick kid and a husband who travels, or no husband at all, and to have to take your kids to the store to buy medicine, or food, (and maybe even a few non-essentials while you're there). I promise you it is way less convenient for the mom than it is for you, who merely has to deal with them for 2 minutes while you ring them up. If you can't handle that, get a new job, or become a hermit or something.
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