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It is interesting to me that much of how you feel about this will depend upon YOUR attitude about it. If you accept that the parents do it out of love and let it roll off your back, you are likely to be much happier.
Looks like a bunch of idiots came on here to reply. Completely feel for OP. It is your life, and you have the right to live free from energy draining, authoritarian, control freak parents. Looks like a bunch of the posters ignored all the facts and blamed OP's attitude without presenting any reasons why. Typical authoritarian attitude you see all over these sites. Yahoo answers, quora, city data, etc. Same attitude everywhere.
My parents are controlling, and when they don't get their way the guilt tripping starts. This still goes on for decades past childhood. They refuse to let us be friends on a semi equal level, even though I have been a self-supporting all my adult years. They still give unsolicited advice about my career, money, dating, and pressure about having children.
I finally had enough. A couple years ago, I applied to a job far away in a dream city and was eventually hired. I now am thousands of miles away. I mailed them a goodbye letter when I left. I generally refuse phone calls, but they still leave regular voice messages on my cell even though I asked them not to call unless it's critical. They have lots of concern about if my apartment is safe area and be careful about carjacking and drugs. They've asked to come visit me. I don't return those phone calls. They don't have my address (but probably can get it from a private detective).
Anyway....
I'm single and would like marriage and children. My nightmare is my parents will intentionally move nearby to be a part of their grandchildren's lives. They would most certainly invoke the grandparents' visitation law to gain access to the children. Then they would undermine my children and bad mouth me and my future spouse. I'm sure my parenting would be criticized. I won't let that happen.
There is nothing unfit about my parents (no alcohol, no mental issues, no criminal record). I would look crazy trying to fight the visitations to officials.
So my thought is to only pursue adopted children. I am interested in adopting children just as much as having my own biological ones. Either would be great. However, my parents would have no biological connection to adopted children. They would have no visitation rights. So they would have no reason to move nearby me. I wouldn't even have to tell them I have children. Adopting is sounding like a great fit.
Thoughts?
Do grandparents have any legal visitation rights? Like anywhere? That is news to me. I am not sure what claim you think your Mom would have over biological that she would not have over adopted?
My Mom was hyper critical until the day I told her to her face in a calm and reasonable way that she was full of you know what. I did not use those words. But you get the drift.
Looks like a bunch of idiots came on here to reply. Completely feel for OP. It is your life, and you have the right to live free from energy draining, authoritarian, control freak parents. Looks like a bunch of the posters ignored all the facts and blamed OP's attitude without presenting any reasons why. Typical authoritarian attitude you see all over these sites. Yahoo answers, quora, city data, etc. Same attitude everywhere.
Says the person replying to a 2 yr old post? To a poster who hasn't been active since? I guess things were settled.
How does this even happen? I see something with an unread post in it and I assume that it is new.
I figure people searching for particular topics.
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