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Old 01-26-2016, 08:53 PM
 
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That is correct. I would not put what my daughter inadvertently did, up there on the same level with that lady's reaction. Had she had her nose pressed up against the glass, with her hands cupped around her eyes to see in, then that would have been a different story - and that is my opinion. At the same time, had the homeowner opened the door, and told my daughter it was not nice to peek/peer in, then by all means we would have apologized. And had the lady simply said "No thanks", we would have been on our way. Could the lady have messaged her displeasure differently? Absolutely, and i don't doubt anyone here would disagree.

For those that agree with the lady's reaction - maybe tit-for-tat, or two wrongs make a right works for many of you. Maybe many of you would accept rudeness when directed to you or your child. In fact, it wouldn't surprise me that this story it a nerve to where some of you are somewhat embarrassed as it reminds you of something you did in the past, and you are trying to defend it? Maybe that's a stretch...

I guess I found that kind of response from that lady unacceptable, regardless where she was. And you know what, maybe a letter to her is warranted....
I see this more of a case of the woman, in her own home, bruising your ego when sending you and your daughter away for whatever reason. You invaded her privacy and she reclaimed it. Even the way you wrote the title of this thread indicates you're trying to make this more one-sided than it is. The woman sent away an adult and a child from her own property, not a child alone in a public place. You do your child no favors by allowing her to see yourselves as victims when the only thing hurt was your pride.
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Old 01-26-2016, 11:33 PM
 
Location: Foot of the Rockies
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One girl called her mother and said, "I think we found a dead lady".
Wow, just wow!
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Old 01-27-2016, 02:36 AM
 
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Going door-to-door, disturbing people, and peeking through windows is rude.
There was nothing rude about the homeowner's behavior.
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Old 01-27-2016, 05:08 AM
 
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you on their property and want to tell them how to act in their own house? - Your wife has a protective nature- but forgot about the homeowners rights and wants to inflict her will- NO way- chalk it up as experience kid- people are not always nice-
and to me its good-- teaches the kids not to be so trusting of strangers- another old man might be a pedophile - she should be WEARY of knocking on peoples doors.
as for the cookies- not a plus on the selling or displaying of kids to profit someone or something else- I don't like it. car washes- cookies- envelopes/ paper- candy - etc
make your money another way. I know I am subjective, but too many weirdos out there--- you just don't know
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Old 01-27-2016, 06:04 AM
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Location: Coastal New Jersey
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you on their property and want to tell them how to act in their own house? - Your wife has a protective nature- but forgot about the homeowners rights and wants to inflict her will- NO way- chalk it up as experience kid- people are not always nice-
and to me its good-- teaches the kids not to be so trusting of strangers- another old man might be a pedophile - she should be WARY of knocking on peoples doors.
as for the cookies- not a plus on the selling or displaying of kids to profit someone or something else- I don't like it. car washes- cookies- envelopes/ paper- candy - etc
make your money another way. I know I am subjective, but too many weirdos out there--- you just don't know
^Exactly. It actually surprised me that anyone is still going door to door, but the parent was with the kid so I didn't say anything. However, my GS co-leader was friends with Joan D'Alessandro and one of the last people to see her alive, so our girls NEVER went door to door. We grew up knowing this story.

Joan Angela D'Alessandro Memorial Foundation
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Old 01-27-2016, 06:10 AM
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Location: Coastal New Jersey
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Wow, just wow!
Children find Mahwah woman who died shoveling snow | NJ.com

Those kids will always have a story to tell!
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Old 01-27-2016, 06:18 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Daughter is some precious sensitive snowflake that this really bothered her?

I love girl scouts (despite their chemical-ridden cookies), but door to door needs to end. Immediately. I think most of us are tired of being cold-called...but accosted in your own home...it gets tiring and intrusive.

Most of the kids in our area set up outside the grocery stores and do gangbusters business.
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Old 01-27-2016, 06:28 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Btw, bringing forms to work is equally obnoxious.

Selling crap at work is unprofessional. Besides, it's the kids' responsibility.

You can't avoid these parents, though, and bc I tend to support kid things, I tell them I will absolutely buy IF the kid pitches to me.

I have never said no to a kid pitch.
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Old 01-27-2016, 06:59 AM
 
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Btw, bringing forms to work is equally obnoxious.

Selling crap at work is unprofessional. Besides, it's the kids' responsibility.

You can't avoid these parents, though, and bc I tend to support kid things, I tell them I will absolutely buy IF the kid pitches to me.

I have never said no to a kid pitch.
I don't mind the forms at work because the woman who usually brings the form just posts it up on the wall and doesn't ask anyone to purchase anything. That works for me.
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Old 01-27-2016, 08:01 AM
 
Location: Foot of the Rockies
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Rude to knock on somebody's door? You're way, way off there.

She doesn't have to answer but she has no grounds to complain if a little Girl Scout comes to her door wanting to sell cookies.

The degree of hostility to peaceful visitors that I see sometimes on these pages goes far beyond excessive.
I agree with you in part. It is not rude to knock on the door, or in this case, ring the doorbell. That's what doorbells are for.

However, one does not have to answer the door to anyone, even the police if they don't have a warrant. If someone declines to answer the door, the correct response is to leave. Posters here have given many reasons why the woman may not have wanted to answer the door. In point of fact, you don't have to have any reason. You could just not want to be disturbed. I had an aunt who was widowed young; she did not like to answer her door. She and my mom would go out to dinner during trick or treat time, b/c even with the light turned off, people would still ring the bell.

As for the little girl looking through the glass, while I wouldn't say that will lead to a life of crime, she should have been told right then and there not to do so, and the father/daughter team should have then left. End of story. No letter to the woman telling her she's a rotten neighbor, not letter of apology.
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