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It would be better that he's not hiding it, but the age difference matters and the fact that she is not known to the parents is still worrisome.
Any other questions?
The 1st part means maybe she doesn't want to be interrogated for talking to a minor, so she just says "wait until you're 18," but she is not aiming for anything sexual.
Why does the age difference matter if both are up front about it?
All of the people who want to involve the cops: Can you please state the penal code that the woman is violating? He is 16. In most of the states she can even have sex with him without any legal consequences.
This is a great post. I wish more people understood this point.
There are a few posters here who are of the unwavering opinion that in the absence of a current penal code violation or proven prior criminality, there is no reason to have any real concerns about the situation that is the subject of this thread that has now come full circle. They are entitled to their views and will not modify them just like those on the other side of this issue will not alter theirs.
Responsible parenting does not come with a thick rule book. Common sense, sound judgment, establishment of fair rules and day-to-day vigilant involvement generally serves most minors well during their young lives. When teenagers finally reach the legal age in the state they reside in, everything changes and parents need not be reminded of that fact. Until that time arrives, parents should continue to do the right thing in their homes. If something seems odd, it probably is.
It's probably different in interior Alaska where getting caught stranded in the winter could kill a 15-year old and not a 21-year old, but in normal climates, that's not the case.
There's very little an 18-year old can do that a 16-year old cannot.
There are a few posters here who are of the unwavering opinion that in the absence of a current penal code violation or proven prior criminality, there is no reason to have any real concerns about the situation that is the subject of this thread that has now come full circle. They are entitled to their views and will not modify them just like those on the other side of this issue will not alter theirs.
Responsible parenting does not come with a thick rule book. Common sense, sound judgment, establishment of fair rules and day-to-day vigilant involvement generally serves most minors well during their young lives. When teenagers finally reach the legal age in the state they reside in, everything changes and parents need not be reminded of that fact. Until that time arrives, parents should continue to do the right thing in their homes. If something seems odd, it probably is.
OK, so according to you, if I think you are odd, then you are odd.
That is the most asinine reactive system I have ever heard.
That is a great recipe to turn the kid into a judgmental, entitled snob.
Why wouldn't a 16 year old girl tell a 16 year old boy her real age? Wouldn't that be a good thing if she was 16 and not 40?
If the guys at her school are going through the "It's cool to treat your girlfriend like a loser" phase, pretending she's older might give her an air of competence.
For me, it has nothing to do with gender, the genders could be reversed & I would say the same thing. There is no evidence of any crime. The idea that one should call the cops & throw around terms like "sexual predator" that can ruin someone's life, because there were phone conversations, is unbelievable.
The kid & the woman are gaming friends. It seems odd, it may be inappropriate, but the only thing that seems to have happened is a couple of phone convos & texts. No evidence anyone is manipulating anyone, they're talking on the phone b/c they're friends. That's what friends do. Also, as has been stated, even by the OP, there's no evidence the woman knows this is an underage kid. She may well think she's talking to a 23 yo, as the OP said her son has a deep voice. Absolutely question the kid, absolutely call the woman & inform her the kid is underage, but there's nothing to even call the cops about & I would say that if it was a 40yo male & a 16+ girl.
There's not even anything close to a law being broken here. Two friends, who maybe shouldn't be friends (but we don't even know that) are talking on the phone. Those are the facts that were presented. Some of those calls happened at night & in secret. Presumably with the 16 year old initiating or the parents would have heard the phone ring. It's not illegal for a 16 & 40 yo to talk. It's not illegal for them to be friends & as others have said, it may not even be illegal for them to have sex.
I sure wish OP would come back & update us as to whether she's called the woman to inform her that the boy is underage.
This conversation seems to have a bit of a mob mentality with rush to judgment and then if you're proven wrong, well at least they got the names of the people right, so let's call it even!
Never heard of see something, say something? This is suspicious behavior. Let the police decide whether anything illegal has taken place, instead of brushing over it and hoping everyone told the truth. Imagine 10 years down the line and the kid tells you something untoward was happening and they just didn't understand that at the time. The police have officers who are trained to handle these situations because they know that its something that is easily concealed and secretive by nature.
Ever hear of "never squeal or get in more trouble"?
We don't need the police to run every aspect of our lives. The average person should be capable of understanding if a law was broken or not.
People can lie to police too. They are not some magic omnipotent being that snaps everyone into truth.
Anytime you hear the phrase "they are trained to handle this" you know its total baloney.
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