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Well we are a blatant case of where this did not hold true. But we've already beaten that to death. Which is exactly where this thread is going. Good grief.
The cases where divorce is good for kids are cases where children never should have been born into the marriage in the first place. You're talking cases of abuse and neglect. Definitely cases where the couple in questions should not have been bringing children into a bad situation. So the fact that divorce is better for some kids doesn't disprove what I'm saying. It's actually an example of what I'm claiming.
Even a good divorce isn't good for kids unless they're being released from an intolerable situation by the divorce but then you have to ask why parents are bringing children into intolerable situations? Like my mom. Why she had two kids with a man who was bi-polar is beyond any of our comprhension. Yes, the divorce was good for us but it would have been better for her to have waited a few years to start having babies because she would have figured out that he had a problem before we were brought into the picture. Of course, we're talking the late 1950's here and BC wasn't that reliable. It's not like today when you can pick when you have kids for the most part.
For those who haven't figured it out, there is nothing that is going to convince me that having children before you give yourself a chance to grow up, get an education and get on your feet is a smart move. It's risky any way you slice it. Fortunately, most do ok in spite of the risks but some kids pay a heavy price for their parents folly. Too bad they don't count. They should.
You have an amazing ability to read only what you believe, into someone's post. That is nowhere near what I said. And I am not debating this, again, with you. Good GRIEF woman.
Anyways, back to something of nutritional value......
I spoke to my son about starting this thread. He told me that he could see me at 70 still playing practical jokes and dancing salsa, so it wouldn't make a difference how old I was when I had him.
I asked him how he'd like to plan his family. He said he wants to start soon. He'll be 21 in a couple of months. It's not because I am biased that I say this, though I am proud, he is one of the most honorable, hard working, responsible gentlemen I know. So, I think he will be a wonderful parent and husband.
Anyways, back to something of nutritional value......
I spoke to my son about starting this thread. He told me that he could see me at 70 still playing practical jokes and dancing salsa, so it wouldn't make a difference how old I was when I had him.
I asked him how he'd like to plan his family. He said he wants to start soon. He'll be 21 in a couple of months. It's not because I am biased that I say this, though I am proud, he is one of the most honorable, hard working, responsible gentlemen I know. So, I think he will be a wonderful parent and husband.
I was 20 with my first and 23 with my second and so far it's worked out great. I love being a mommy and being young at the same time. By the time I'm 40, then my husband and I can travel and do all the fun things together we've always wanted to do. And being young will allow me to have a better chance at knowing my grandchildren into their adulthood, as i lost two of my grandparents by the time i was 12. It wasn't fun...
Let me also add for the snooty people, that i AM married and my husband finished his education and is makeing a 6 figure salary and that has allowed me to stay home with my children and raise them instead of using daycare.
So being young and having kids doesnt mean you dropped out of HS or college. Sheesh!! Such closed minded people!
For those who haven't figured it out, there is nothing that is going to convince me that having children before you give yourself a chance to grow up, get an education and get on your feet is a smart move. It's risky any way you slice it. Fortunately, most do ok in spite of the risks but some kids pay a heavy price for their parents folly. Too bad they don't count. They should.
For those that haven't figured it out, there is nothing that is going to convince me that everyone is exactly the same and everyone should wait until they're 30 to have children and everyone should have a college education and everyone should wait to see if their marriage is going to "stick".
Him: Hi I am almost 21 and I am looking for a woman to make babies with ASAP
Her: Uh? Would you like your receipt?
Pity that's the extent of your thinking.
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