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Openly bi (polysexual?) here. I don't wear it on my sleeve but I don't exactly hide it. No one cares anyway, though straight women are usually insecure about dating a bi man.
Most bi's lean straight or gay rather than having a 50/50 attraction. Yet there is stigma in both gay and straight communities (particularly for men) so most tend to keep it to themselves and identify with their prominent attraction for convenience.
I can see that. Is the stigma the same in UK as in the States?
You hear about coming out all the time in the Gay community and it is celibrated, but When a Bisexual comes out which isn't often they are looked at with disdain and suspician by many. Bi-sexual men are ostrocized by women as you see on this board?
In real life I know quite a few women that have had open Bisexual experiences or even indentify themselves as "Bi" but you rarely see anyone identifying themselves here as such?
This applies to Gays and Straight, as neither group seem 100% comfortable with Bi-sexual People.
I think it makes some sense. I'm straight. I know lots of people here foam at the mouth about "the homosexual agenda" and "homosexual indoctrination." It used to baffle me, because no matter what, someone isn't going to be able to influence me to be attracted to other women. I'm not wired that way. If, on the other hand, you are attracted to BOTH sexes, then you really do have a choice on the gender of the relationships you pursue. If you've been brought up to believe that same sex relationships are shameful and dirty, it makes sense that you would feel tremendous shame over your own same sex attractions, and go out of your way to attack others like you, or who are gay, in an attempt to assure yourself and the world that you're not "that way."
Pretty sick and twisted if you ask me, but then I'm beginning to think there are more sick, warped people in the world than not.
"If you've been brought up to believe that same sex relationships are shameful and dirty, it makes sense that you would feel tremendous shame over your own same sex attractions,"
True, even a huge amount of Straights feel that Heterosexual sex is dirty and are too embaressed to openly talk about it. Even though people feel that sex is overdiscussed it's really the opposite, constructive discussions regarding sex rarely take place in an open formum.
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Originally Posted by Nayabone
Everyone is bi-sexual, have you come out yet???
I'm waiting for the test results from my Gene Report
LSJuan ... I was in the swinger community for years. Most women are perfectly OK admitting their Bisexuality and it's very accepted. Traditionally men have had a difficult time coming out as Bi even in that community but it is becoming more accepted with the younger crowd.
It's just mostly a macho guy thing but I see that changing somewhat much like a gay male in the Hispanic community. Sexuality is a spectrum to many men and women.
BTW, you'll get more legit responses with this in the Relationship forum. Less judgement.
I can see that. Is the stigma the same in UK as in the States?
I've never lived in the US so I can't really compare. Outright religious bigotry doesn't really exist here. The 'stigma' is very mild - mainly misunderstandings like "why can't you be straight or gay?" or an assumption i'm gay but in denial (even though I prefer women.) The UK on the whole is pretty tolerant of LBGT though, we're a pretty liberal bunch.
Sometimes I'm "Bye-Sexual." When I meet someone and suggest we have sex, they say "Bye" and leave.
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