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Old 09-29-2011, 01:01 AM
 
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Except for the small kids to whom I teach piano lessons (I'm overly generous) I give each person the exact credit they deserve, no more, no less.

Disappointed and surprised by what? Human behavior itself? Mostly dismayed.

I have firm standards, but I have adjusted to the fact that most people by and large are very selfish and will destroy your life if it helps them get ahead by one inch, giving your destruction not so much as two seconds' thought.

No, I was very much an idealist until life kicked me in the teeth, now I am super-cautious on all fronts; You have to earn trust with me ten times before I will believe in you, I am expecting you to let me down (and prove who you REALLY are) on time number 4 or 5, everyone always has.
I feel the same way. I was a very idealistic person. Then life slapped some sense into me.
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Old 09-29-2011, 01:24 AM
 
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I think I generally give people WAY too much credit
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Old 09-29-2011, 01:55 AM
 
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more or less credit than they deserve?
I give the benefit of the doubt, which often becomes more credit than they deserved....

Do you find yourself more often disappointed or pleasantly surprised?
Disappointed....

Do you adjust well?
Actually, yes, I do. I am extremely idealistic, but also very forgiving. Of course, there are times I've been hurt, but I don't let it embitter me. More often than not, while inconsistent, people do have good motives.

Have you always been this way?
I used to be more closed off & suspicious of people when I was younger. I never liked people right away as a kid; they had to grow on me. I am still guarded, but I prefer to start off with a neutral-to-positive view rather than a negative one with new people.
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Old 09-29-2011, 03:41 AM
 
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more or less credit than they deserve?
I give the benefit of the doubt, which often becomes more credit than they deserved....

Do you find yourself more often disappointed or pleasantly surprised?
Disappointed....

Do you adjust well?
Actually, yes, I do. I am extremely idealistic, but also very forgiving. Of course, there are times I've been hurt, but I don't let it embitter me. More often than not, while inconsistent, people do have good motives.

Have you always been this way?
I used to be more closed off & suspicious of people when I was younger. I never liked people right away as a kid; they had to grow on me. I am still guarded, but I prefer to start off with a neutral-to-positive view rather than a negative one with new people.

I agree on all points except that I'm more leery now than when I was younger and naive, however...it does not stop me from giving people the benefit of the doubt.
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Old 09-29-2011, 04:59 PM
 
Location: San Leandro
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If you give people less credit than they are worth, you will rarely be let down by them. When they let you down you will be expecting it.
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