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Inside ---as in my home? Or Inside Mental assertion of the usage of the "word" - nice?
In my house - Its completely fine
Inside my mental awareness- equally enjoyable.
I try to use less "fluff" words for a character trait though..."nice" is vague.
I usually say the person has a kind disposition or an awareness of empathy. Both to sum up the fluff word- "nice".
If it's a response to my doing a favor for a stranger, I'm fine with it.
If someone who knows me more than that, I feel disdain, because I'm not nice inside and think the person is easily fooled (judges too much on visuals and use of voice) and/or I'm a good faker (a little wicked like the outwardly placid Maty Noyes in the "Beautiful Problem" music video).
Sometimes I feel disrespected or manipulated, as though "nice" means "good boy, for doing what I want." I do what I want or what my personal moral code says, not primarily to please others. I don't want to be seen as a pushover and not a real man. It can send me into a little spiral of dissatisfaction and frustration with my appearance. Yet some days I'll deliberately dress to come across as nicer than I am (one of two ways I like to have style-fraud fun). Better than being noticed for looking mopey or irritated.... There's no real solution. I guess I should be glad I'm not slight, because then I probably would have heard it a lot more often.
I have never been called a "Nice Guy" offline. I think that's almost entirely an Internet label.
Last edited by goodheathen; 08-21-2017 at 12:22 AM..
I don't think too much of it to tell you the truth. Just look at it as a compliment I guess. Sometimes my kids would tell me "so and so thinks you are cool". I take that as a compliment also. I think it makes them feel good also.
Back in the day and it maybe still true, when a female referred to a guy as "nice", it usually meant she only wants to be friends and not take it any further, for whatever reason.....lol
I don't get called "nice" but I have always been called "too nice". Which is apparently an annoying trait?
Typically this statement is followed with additional info, such as: I apologize too much. I don't stand up for myself. I don't "get" other people when they are being snarky or snide. I'm nice to the wrong people ... the list goes on & on. I'm also a "Pollyanna" .
I'm not oblivious to this & sometimes I wish I was more assertive. I am aware that most people don't engage in 30 minute conversations with hobos or say "excuse me; sorry!" 500 times in a grocery store but I really couldn't change myself if I wanted to. I wouldn't refer to anyone else as just nice because I'd feel like it was too generic.
nice is the polite way of saying.."we dont want anything to do with you, go away" its like the southern expression 'Bless his heart" which means "stupid"
LOL I do believe you are wrong on both counts in general. Maybe when YOU use these terms, it's what you mean, but personally I can and do use both terms and they mean different things in different settings.
nice is the polite way of saying.."we dont want anything to do with you, go away" its like the southern expression 'Bless his heart" which means "stupid"
Lol...
"Bless your heart" southern translation :"You sure are ugly/stupid"
I'm told I'm nice fairly often, and get referred to as "the nice lady at the front desk" quite a bit. It's my professional role to be nice, helpful and polite. I've been at this job for 15 years. I guess I'm good at it.
Nice is just one adjective out of many many adjectives that describe me. I'm fine with it.
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