best self help book you ever read (addiction, counselor, anxiety)
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right now I am reading 'Taming Your Gremlin' by Carson and I have to admit it is really a helpful book. Most self help books I try to read I get past the first chapter or so and find out that it isn't doing anything for me so I quit the book. But I realize a book isn't going make life a happy go lucky affair every day or anything like that. But some books can help make life more barable. If that sounds pessimistic I have to say that I have been studying Schopenhauer for many years and he is highly pessimistic about life. But he is partly right of course but someone once said his pessimism was partly due to his own personality which is probably true.
Dissolve the Problem: By Shifting Physical Reality by Richard Dotts. I would say the author's ideas might be more accessible to readers who are already pretty familiar with metaphysics but it showed me a way to nearly totally alleviate the crushing anxiety that had plagued me for decades.
Oddly, thinking back, the book(s) that probably made the most difference in my life were the Al-Anon books. They really helped me learn how to separate someone else's responsibilities from my own.
And interestingly, this is something that I think women still struggle with - taking on the responsibility and/or blame for someone else, be it a significant other or child, etc.
It was really helpful and freeing. To stop covering for my ex or paying his bills yet again. But, this can happen to friends and parents, too. And it's a really important lesson - that your problems are yours and mine are mine. I can feel your pain and empathize with what you are going through - without letting you lean on me for solutions or a bailout.
Letting someone else own their own adult problems without feeling the need or being guilted into taking them over.
Anyway, my ex had an addiction problem, so our marriage counselor at the time suggested I get involved with Al-Anon. I didn't like the meetings, as it was usually a room full of people complaining about someone they couldn't control - but were still trying to. But, the books really stuck with me. And I sought out many books on the subject.
I will still occasionally struggle with boundaries, but it was the Al-Anon books that put me on the road to understanding boundaries between my responsibilities and others'.
When I was single in my forties (and didn't really even know how to date as an adult in the 21st century - LOL) I swear the most helpful book I ever read was "He's Just Not That Into You." The movie was horrible - the book was excellent. I've recommended it over and over again to single women of all ages. And I applied those principles -and wow, they were right on target.
For basic life principles I really like M Scott Peck. His classic "The Road Less Traveled" is a book I really need to reread. And his darker "People of the Lie" is terrific for anyone who is involved with (married to, parented by, related to, etc) someone with a personality disorder.
Most definitely "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living" by Dale Carnegie. Bought it on Amazon over the summer when I was on bedrest from surgery. I couldn't put it down all summer. Very informative, helpful ways to be a more positive and motivated person.
Most definitely "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living" by Dale Carnegie. Bought it on Amazon over the summer when I was on bedrest from surgery. I couldn't put it down all summer. Very informative, helpful ways to be a more positive and motivated person.
For me it's his How To Win Friends And Influence People.
Also, Hope And Help For Your Nerves, Claire Weekes. I've read countless such books, but the rest are forgettable.
That’s the basis for the core job skill that paid the bills for 30+ years. I had a few college text books in Electrical Engineering and Computer Science that provided the background to quickly learn new technologies as they emerged. Core STEM texts in math, probability theory, and physics were also pretty important.
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