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Bipolar can occur at any age but often occurs between the ages of 15 and 19, rarely after the age of 40. There are two main types of Bipolar disorder. Bipolar 1 is the more extreme of the two, while Bipolar 2 has much more milder symptoms. You would probably not even notice a person had Bipolar 2. It’s very hard to diagnose as well. I used to be a R.N. and had patients with both types.
A friend of mine had a friend who was finally diagnosed with bi polar at around 63 years of age. She had been treated for depression for decades. She hung herself in her garage shortly after she got the diagnosis. A very bright woman too and very shocking.
A friend of mine had a friend who was finally diagnosed with bi polar at around 63 years of age. She had been treated for depression for decades. She hung herself in her garage shortly after she got the diagnosis. A very bright woman too and very shocking.
"Depression" seems to be a default diagnosis to some degree. For awhile, Bi-Polar was the fad diagnosis, it seems; if someone exhibited depression-like symptoms, some therapists or clinicians would somehow come up with a justification for Bi-polar, saying there were subtle swings from depression to the opposite. Being misdiagnosed can have all kinds of negative consequences.
"Depression" seems to be a default diagnosis to some degree. For awhile, Bi-Polar was the fad diagnosis, it seems; if someone exhibited depression-like symptoms, some therapists or clinicians would somehow come up with a justification for Bi-polar, saying there were subtle swings from depression to the opposite. Being misdiagnosed can have all kinds of negative consequences.
That's a very sad story Wile-E.
It took my friend a while to get over it. From day one I treated it like a major loss for her (I might have been the only one that did that). I also discouraged her from any type of thought that it had anything at all to do with her.
I was never friends with this person; I could have been. But, I never hit it off with her whatsoever. Not to blame the victim; but, I thought it was such a cop out. She had so much going for her and it was obvious to me that if she had bi polar now she had already had it for decades. So, then being labeled is what she could not handle. I just blamed the victim for displaying such weakness and supported my friend as I thought it was dramatic and ridiculous. I'm definitely not saying that's always the case.
I will bet that the roommate has always had some issue and that was the original reason she was home schooled. The mother probably dealt with it at home; the roommate was probably never officially diagnosed, or she could have been with the mother not feeling that it was correct.
If the roommate ever went to a public school, I bet there is some sort of history from her losing it in grade school.
She was sent to college because she had been stable at home where she had her own little bubble, until now.
Sending her back to college is the wrong choice. The parents need to make sure she is stable for a good year before sending her off on her own. Possible they just don't want to deal with the roommate and her illness any more, especially if she has siblings who she takes it out on.
I'll be surprised if there is no history of her being unstable. It can't just be turned on and off.
My SIL was okay in school, but she was unable to form friendships. She was odd.
When she hit 30, the hallucinations began. When my husband's parents told him about it, my husband said it made sense as basically she was always unbalance. Doctors say that siblings are the canaries in the coal mines. They always know something is serious wrong but can't label it. It takes longer for the parents to admit it.
As I said, this is a genetic and runs through families. It has nothing to do with stress from college. It will come out sooner or later. Colleges know this. I doubt any college will allow to live on campus again.
She needs to be with a different roommate, in a single room, or another option for housing perhaps not on campus. I would not allow her to be put back in with that same roommate. If feeling sorry for others would cure the world, I would be all in on such thinking, but why does your daughter have to be made to suffer because of another student's behavior its simply not valid. You should talk with an attorney because low-paid staffers at colleges don't do anything unless forced to do it I am sad to say. Please pay close attention, contacting and consulting with an attorney doesn't mean you are going to sue and make all this public. You consult with attorney and he/she contacts the management at the University on your behalf and that alone can have a positive result for your daughter. A phone call and/or letter from an attorney won't go unnoticed to get you action. I would do this and stop having conversations with the staff there about it.
I know this is going to be unpopular but if roommate is getting on her nerves can't she just leave the room and go to the library. I realize it is "not fair" but a lot of people have to cope with crappy roommates and well you gotta do what you gotta do.
I don't mean to say that is the only solution but I think your daughter needs to have some plans to work around the situation.
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I know this is going to be unpopular but if roommate is getting on her nerves can't she just leave the room and go to the library. I realize it is "not fair" but a lot of people have to cope with crappy roommates and well you gotta do what you gotta do.
I don't mean to say that is the only solution but I think your daughter needs to have some plans to work around the situation.
The roommate has withdrawn from college altogether. The crisis is over. The housing authority said they'd try to get her into a single room, if possible, as I understood it. The Op posted an update three days ago.
I know this is going to be unpopular but if roommate is getting on her nerves can't she just leave the room and go to the library. I realize it is "not fair" but a lot of people have to cope with crappy roommates and well you gotta do what you gotta do.
I don't mean to say that is the only solution but I think your daughter needs to have some plans to work around the situation.
The roommate has a mental illness and living with someone like full-time is much more disruptive and stressful than finding a place to study outside of the dorm room. Academic pressures in college are real, and the OP's daughter deserves to get what she is paying for too. It isn't about fair, when you are a college student you are a customer of that organization no different than when you book a room at a hotel or eat in a restaurant. They need to provide the right environment for her to become educated and flourish, just like all their other customers.
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