Teenage boys lying about their age (woman, older, family, kid)
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Well first of all, I'm a middle aged mom and new gramma. I met a guy on a game that we both played, very charming, mature, kind, funny, friendly, interesting, affectionate, open-minded, adventurous.
At first he told me he was over 18. Over the course of time, I found out other details such as his birthday was in July ( I was assuming that he would be 19). At graduation time, he "didn't go" to his senior prom. When July rolled around, I sent him a card and a couple of gag sex gifts for his birthday.
However the next year, he's starting school again. When I question him about it, he tells me that he failed the 8th grade.
Over the course of time, he was finally forced to admit to me that he hadn't turned 19, he had only turned 18. And over the course of more time, that birthday went from his 18th to his 17th, and his 17th to his 16th. I was shocked, and immediately tried to end the relationship.
It turns out that this kid is a psychopath and had been charming and manipulating me for 2 and a half whole years.
Unfortunately, after finding out his real age (I hope) finally, and attempting to end the relationship, he started threatening suicide. Only going beyond "threatening" and telling me details of how someone or other caught him and stopped him, or how he didn't know who found him - he just woke up in the hospital, or how he had been "baker acted" and locked up for evaluation for 72 hours, or .. etc etc.
He would threaten to take pills, throw himself in front of a truck, slit his wrists, slit his throat, and each time I would be frantic with worry. I had no way of contacting anyone in his family, and the state police couldn't help me if I didn't have his address. Every time I tried to break it off with him, he attempted another suicide. I finally got an email address of someone at his home (his legal guardian it turns out) to contact, but only in an absolute emergency, and I had to tell him that it was in case anything happened to ME.
A couple weeks ago I tried to break it off with him once and for all and he did the suicide thing again and went to great lengths to make me think he had actually done it. Upon emailing his guardian, believing that it was probably too late, he was perfectly fine and after discussing the problem with her, she was shocked. He had never actually attempted suicide, not even once - yet he had faked it to me on four different occasions. She immediately did have him "baker acted" for real.
But this woman knew of his obsession over me she knew I was an older woman, and had at one time threatened to press charges against me for being a "predator" - when I'm actually a victim!
So I guess my question is, are there any laws or is there any protection at all for an ADULT victim of a teenaged psychopath who has "Antisocial Personality Disorder" amongst other things and lies about his age in order to get into a romantic relationship with an adult?
The list of possible/probable things that are wrong with this kid: Pathological Liar, Antisocial Personality Disorder, Bi-polar depression, Addicted to porn, Addicted to masturbation, Pedophile. (And probably a few more.)
I'm really at a loss here. I can't find anything on the net pertaining to a situation like this anywhere. Surely I'm not the only woman this has happened to.
Well first of all, I'm a middle aged mom and new gramma. I met a guy on a game that we both played, very charming, mature, kind, funny, friendly, interesting, affectionate, open-minded, adventurous.
At first he told me he was over 18. Over the course of time, I found out other details such as his birthday was in July ( I was assuming that he would be 19). At graduation time, he "didn't go" to his senior prom. When July rolled around, I sent him a card and a couple of gag sex gifts for his birthday.
However the next year, he's starting school again. When I question him about it, he tells me that he failed the 8th grade.
Over the course of time, he was finally forced to admit to me that he hadn't turned 19, he had only turned 18. And over the course of more time, that birthday went from his 18th to his 17th, and his 17th to his 16th. I was shocked, and immediately tried to end the relationship.
It turns out that this kid is a psychopath and had been charming and manipulating me for 2 and a half whole years.
Unfortunately, after finding out his real age (I hope) finally, and attempting to end the relationship, he started threatening suicide. Only going beyond "threatening" and telling me details of how someone or other caught him and stopped him, or how he didn't know who found him - he just woke up in the hospital, or how he had been "baker acted" and locked up for evaluation for 72 hours, or .. etc etc.
He would threaten to take pills, throw himself in front of a truck, slit his wrists, slit his throat, and each time I would be frantic with worry. I had no way of contacting anyone in his family, and the state police couldn't help me if I didn't have his address. Every time I tried to break it off with him, he attempted another suicide. I finally got an email address of someone at his home (his legal guardian it turns out) to contact, but only in an absolute emergency, and I had to tell him that it was in case anything happened to ME.
A couple weeks ago I tried to break it off with him once and for all and he did the suicide thing again and went to great lengths to make me think he had actually done it. Upon emailing his guardian, believing that it was probably too late, he was perfectly fine and after discussing the problem with her, she was shocked. He had never actually attempted suicide, not even once - yet he had faked it to me on four different occasions. She immediately did have him "baker acted" for real.
But this woman knew of his obsession over me she knew I was an older woman, and had at one time threatened to press charges against me for being a "predator" - when I'm actually a victim!
So I guess my question is, are there any laws or is there any protection at all for an ADULT victim of a teenaged psychopath who has "Antisocial Personality Disorder" amongst other things and lies about his age in order to get into a romantic relationship with an adult?
The list of possible/probable things that are wrong with this kid: Pathological Liar, Antisocial Personality Disorder, Bi-polar depression, Addicted to porn, Addicted to masturbation, Pedophile. (And probably a few more.)
I'm really at a loss here. I can't find anything on the net pertaining to a situation like this anywhere. Surely I'm not the only woman this has happened to.
Any help would be much appreciated.
Well, I sure as hell wouldn't start a thread and telling the world about it!LMAO...........
Seriously, you are just as guilty as a man with the "girl" lying to him. It doesn't matter who or if they lied. If you had sexual relations with a minor you are or could be in some s***!
I didn't have a sexual relationship with him. I never met him IRL and I didn't intend to. But we did have some pretty explicit conversations online over the course of a couple years.
I really don't need smarta$$ remarks here, what I need is some help and advice on this.
It is. It's totally absurd, I agree. But it has happened to me. I'm just an ordinary person, it's not like I went out looking for some young teenaged psychopath to uhh.. cybermolest (is there such a thing?) - we met on the game we both played and started hanging out, got really attached to each other.
I sure as h3ll never expected anything like this to ever happen to me, but it did. And before you say well why didn't you just break it off and cut contact... what would you do if someone was slitting their wrists because of you?
I know this happened to my best friend's mom BUT the guy was 18. She was 35 and did not know for at least a year. How did she find out? A club they were trying to enter only allowed 21 and up. They asked for his ID and he couldn't get in! Oh, boy. It didn't end well.
I didn't have a sexual relationship with him. I never met him IRL and I didn't intend to. But we did have some pretty explicit conversations online over the course of a couple years.
I really don't need smarta$$ remarks here, what I need is some help and advice on this.
I think you should call the state bar in your state and ask for a referral for what kind of lawyer you might need. Tell them in a few words what happened. I don't know if you need an lawyer well-versed in internet law or a criminal lawyer, frankly. I wish you luck.
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