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I think I prefer meeting people in real life.. I guess I can judge them (in a good way) their characters, morals, behaviors, and attitudes.
This seems to logical, but if you think of it, it really is not the case.
If you meet a person ringing you up in the bass pro shop, how do you have any better chance to judge their character, morals, behaviors and attitudes, than if you met them online. The key (as has been stated) is that the goal of online is to meet them in person anyway. So if you take away all the "stigmas", then really it's just two different ways to get to the same end goal, and that is to meet a person in person.
Sometimes you get lucky, and you're at a dinner party (or whatever) and just find yourself getting to know someone, so "there you are", but otherwise, whether in the checkout line, at the grocery thumping melons, online, or chance meeting at kick-boxing course, it's just a way to meet, so you can ask for the chance to meet one-on-one, in person.
One benefit of the online (in addition to what has already been stated) is that the intimidation factor is reduced, for those that have one. Much easier to send out a message to someone. If they reject you, they usually do so by ignoring you altogether. if they don't, then by the time you meet (presumably a couple messages down the road), you at least have a little bit more knowledge of them, their personality, their sense of humor, and etc, and therefore the ice is a little thinner, easier to break.
I don't like online or maybe online doesn't like. I am not really photogenic. My type isn't really online, or the ones that are aren't really interested in me as a type.
I just find it easier to do "targeted" socializing. I am much more successful there, and it plays more to my strengths anyway.
The people that reach out to me online are generally all wrong:
1. Mr. socially awkward (I am a social butterfly-type, bad fit)
2. Mr. Looking for a hookup. (um, no!)
3. Mr. I have no personality (boring)
I don't have time to pick at every oyster to find a pearl.
This seems to logical, but if you think of it, it really is not the case.
If you meet a person ringing you up in the bass pro shop, how do you have any better chance to judge their character, morals, behaviors and attitudes, than if you met them online
Even worse, a lot of people act tougher or more open online than IRL.
I've always found it easier to meet people and make friends online then if I were to meet some one face to face. Most of the people I've met face to face (through school, work) I barely talk to anymore.
Done both, and don't have a strong preference one way or another...there are pros and cons to each. Online is efficient, because it doesn't limit me to just the number of people in my immediate physical environment or friends of friends, etc...more exposure. In person allows you to more accurately and quickly assess actual chemistry. But ultimately, how you meet is pretty immaterial compared to the factors that allow you to build a relationship or not once you do meet.
Real life is preferable. Without a doubt. Common interest or a situation where you are yourself and "at your best" is the most productive.
On-line dating has worked for some. My Mom knows a couple who met this way. They were both divorced with kids, with both sets of divorces not amicable. He looks like Sam Elliott and she looks like Lindsay Wagner (both age progressed from their peaks), so they're doing fine ... a matched set.
On-line dating is generally not a surprise. If there's a picture there, some bio stuff, and you talk on the phone, then there's not much mystery. The "wild card" is if the person's IRL vibe works for you. I went ahead with a few dates where everything was pretty much on target, but the conversation indicated their "jockette" factor was higher than what I like, and within a short time, I knew I was sitting there wasting my time ... and theirs.
what difference does it make? most people are garbage anyways.
You write crap like this, and your rep to post ratio is higher than mine??? This is high comedy at its best.
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