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What are the most important questions you need answered?
What information about yourself are you willing to share?
What do you need to know (besides if there's chemistry) to decide if you're open to a second date?
the problem with first dates, is, it is a Job interview
(and as Jerry Seinfeld says "its the only job interview, where at the end you could be naked")
And both parties are on their 'best behavior' and most of the evening is trying to sneak in behind the wall and get a look at the person behind it.
Most first dates are all about 'will there be a second date' and THEN the learning about the other person starts.
When I was single, I never went into a first date with any preconceived notions about what to ask, what i wanted to know, or what I'd tell. I think when you meet a person whom you have good rapport with and who you are comfortable with, things naturally come out in conversation. I think that's half the problem with people and why they never enjoy dating. They go into first dates with way high expectations, way high ideas about how it should go and don't know how to let down their guard and just be themselves.
Of course that chemistry is essential if anything is going to work out but I would want to get a feeling about how dependable and trustworthy she is. For example, if she had a history of being fired from jobs and was being hounded by debt collectors I wouldn't be interested. Some of my concerns would just be practical matters such as her ability to take care of herself financially and being a responsible person. I've known several guys whose wives spending habits had caused a lot of problems because they were living beyond their means.
Personality issues are obviously extremely important. If a woman is moody or irritable by nature I couldn't stand to be with her because I'm just the opposite. I've always been seeking a harmonious relationship and have no interest in having my life turn into an emotional rollercoaster ride.
I haven't been on a "first date" in over a decade! Usually I end up seeing someone I've known for awhile where we had a friendship relationship first.
Last Saturday I went on my first "first date" in ages, and what a shock. The guy was fun to be with and a real gentlemen, but I definitely felt like I was on an interview!
In the past I just like to see if there's enough chemistry to warrant a second date. Is the conversation flowing, do we share similar interests and points of view, does she have a sense of humor that's in sync with mine? Along the way I take note of any particular bad habits or tics that have the potential to get on my nerves if it hasn't already.
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