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I need some advice concerning the following matter.
I got to know a girl from the university I attend. We started to have smaller chats in the school, and this week I asked her out for a drink during a break when we didn't have a class.
My problem is that we are both a bit shy, so could you give me any ideas how to move forward...? I mean what to do next time (if she accepts another invitation). And for me, how to move forward to kiss her some time, because now I feel that it would result in an awkward situation because we just talk without touching each other. So beforehand I need to establish a 'level' to be able to kiss her, but I don't really know how to.
do you know if she likes you back? you just said you have chats with her... Just get to know her and dish out some charm (make fun of her a little, crack some jokes, give her an idea of who you are). The kiss will come naturally if she is receptive.
Had met one girl (Friend of a friend) once before.
We all talked, I served everyone (My place)
Caught her looking a few times.
Find an excuse to 'break the touch barrier'
Happened to feed her something (If she accepts, your in. If she takes it and then eats it you could be in, but slow down, or it could be a no)
She stuck around after everyone left. (We were finishing watching something)
And I moved from my chair to the couch.
She sat back on the couch where she was sitting.
I offered to 'trade' her a neck rub. (Having already broken the touch barrier')
After a while I wanted to lay down.
She had no objections and laid down next to me.
After that I let a couple opportunities pass by, and then (you can tell) after a couple kissed her.
-Hope that the mix of what happened combined with advise is understandable.
It's easy, if concerned, do as I do and 'make the next move' after letting a couple opportunities pass by.
It's more sure to be less offensive, and it iwll interest them more.
Hmmm...maybe you could try to "build up", to a kiss? By holding her hand first a few times, for example?
Also, as a way to a kiss, maybe you could kiss her cheek first, and then as you lean backwards from kissing her cheek, come back forward and kiss her, full on the lips?
Just some possible thoughts...good luck & best wishes!!
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Originally Posted by Moricka
Hi Guys,
I need some advice concerning the following matter.
I got to know a girl from the university I attend. We started to have smaller chats in the school, and this week I asked her out for a drink during a break when we didn't have a class.
My problem is that we are both a bit shy, so could you give me any ideas how to move forward...? I mean what to do next time (if she accepts another invitation). And for me, how to move forward to kiss her some time, because now I feel that it would result in an awkward situation because we just talk without touching each other. So beforehand I need to establish a 'level' to be able to kiss her, but I don't really know how to.
If you've only been on one date with her....what's the rush?? she's shy, you're shy...so take your time man, maybe try becoming friends,...don't rush things..if it's meant to happen, you'll know when the time is right.
You just gotta do it. Let go of your fear and do it! Alcohol helps a lot too. Drinks are a perfect setup. Have a few drinks, relax, find a good bar with couches or comfortable seating where the two of you are side-by-side instead of across from one another. Wait until you're both relaxed then make your move.
If you are still too shy, you can start by holding her hand. Reach over and gently grab her hand. If she appears uncomfortable or pulls away, then you know she's not into you. If she holds your hand back, or rubs your fingers, or appears happy, then you're golden. Just give it a little more time, talk to her, act like everything is cool. Then make your move and lean in for a kiss. Don't suck her face, just start with gentle kisses. Then if she's receptive, you can go deeper.
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By holding her hand first a few times, for example?
