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as a single guy with no kids, who has dated single moms in the past, there are many obstacles to overcome.
1. Her kids will always be #1...always.
-this will usually leave little time for dates, travel, and all of the fun stuff new couples do in the beginning of a relationship.
-want to spend a weekend somewhere? Do something spontaneous? Not gonna happen without planning.
2. Is a guy really ready for a life of soccer games, basketball, ballet recitals, pta meetings, and so on?
-face it...most single moms are fully involved with everything kid related for obvious reasons. If a guy has no experience with that, it can come as foreign territory.
Often times, the two will have completely different sets of goals. One wants a house with good schools, and the other wants a penthouse in the city center.
Thus, it takes a special guy to accept all of that and more, and is usually the reason single mothers date older men.
Basically saying I am not allowed to have the same expectations from a relationship as I would have in the past.
You shouldn't have the same expectations you had before.
That's not necessarily a bad thing.
Honestly you sound like someone who never faced a lot of rejection, and now you think no one should ever reject you. You're the peach, the one who picks and chooses, not men. Perhaps that's not what you're trying to say, but that's how you sound.
just be ur self.....don't let anyone judge u or in anyway...it shows ur a stronger woman! i'm a single mom of 4 and my 4 kid's dad left me for a man.....heck men an't perfect no one is life is full of suprise just at least expected the unexpected when it comes around at least u're showin all people that u doing ur way of livin ur life and ur kids gonna grow up and be thankful that you raisin them in a right way at least they have a good mom
Had you read further back before insulting me personally, I clarified the scale thing earlier on in the discussion.....
"One thing in particular that depressed me was a kid who said that single moms had to lower their standards because they were desperate. So a 10 woman, who would normally date 10s, would be left to date 6s if she were a mom. Brutal"
Just for the record because I feel as though people are taking what I wrote in my original post out of context. A person from a previous post mentioned the scale indicator in relation to what single moms have to face in the dating field. That was not my idea, thought process, etc. I found it incredibly insulting which is why I posted on here. For the exact reason that because they said that as a single mom one has to "lower their standards" Basically saying I am not allowed to have the same expectations from a relationship as I would have in the past.
Yes, because you are not the same person from the past, are you? In the past, you would have been a 20 something young single women, quite a catch for most men old or young, now, you are a 20 something single mom, not so attractive anymore for the younger folks are you, the older one's might be more understanding of the situation.
Also, a bad relationship might indicate to a lot of people that you make poor choices in life, even when it comes to major life changing situations, and that may not be attractive to a lot of people, again, not saying it's your fault, but most people might look at it that way and that you have your share of blame in failing to make it a successful relationship, in case the selection of the man itself had been a wiser one to begin with.
Honestly you sound like someone who never faced a lot of rejection, and now you think no one should ever reject you. You're the peach, the one who picks and chooses, not men. Perhaps that's not what you're trying to say, but that's how you sound.
This is very possible. Those of us that are frustrated by Noelle's attitude toward romance are the ones that have been repeatedly rejected by women like Noelle. Maybe it is just hitting her a little later (and possibly a little harder). Think about what it's like dealing with that your whole life and you'll know why some are bitter.
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i'm a single mom of 4 and my 4 kid's dad left me for a man.....heck men an't perfect no one is life is full of suprise just at least expected the unexpected when it comes around 
*(pun intended)
