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BUT, as a female, I think it would be a very sweet, endearing and humble gesture to the dad....he is, after all, "losing his little girl" to you.....and you would be confirming how special she is to you, as she is to him....
but only a few guys could pull it off well, most likely.
I would be offended by any guy who asked my parents' permission to marry me and I've told my parents to send any guy who comes asking to me because I'm the only one whose opinion matters. They wouldn't do that, though, as I don't think they care either way. 2 of my 3 sisters' husbands asked permission and they don't feel any resentment to the one who doesn't.
I don't care about the traditional aspect, it offends me and makes me feel like I'm a piece of property or an incompetent child.
No. They were in Australia when I proposed. Also, my future SIL totaled the family car. So when they returned, they had a wrecked car and an engaged daughter.
We didn’t necessarily “ask for permission” to each other’s’ families but we did talk to our families in a big family reunion to announce our engagement. My girlfriend and I travelled to her country where her family is. I took my parents with me. We arranged an evening in a restaurant where we enjoyed a nice dinner and after that we both gave our speech. I talked to her family about it, she talked to mine about it, we expressed what we wanted to do, how we were going to take care of each other, etc. both families talked to us and showed they were happy for us and celebrated together. The remaining days both families, my girl, and I, went out and did the touristy thing. Beautiful experience we will share with our children.
We could have continued our plans without considering our families but it is just a way to honor and respect their position.
I didn't vote since I'm not a guy but my husband did talk to my dad. I don't remember if he "asked" for permission but did tell my dad that he wanted to marry me and ask for his blessing. He said my dad's response was, "You want to marry her, then marry her." LOL...I do think it was a nice gesture and I'm sure my dad was happy that hubby did it. I guess it showed a sign of respect to my dad.
The matter of respect has come up a number of times in this thread. My youngest daughter got married about eight months ago. My wife and I were misinformed by her regarding the wedding. It was presented as more of an elopement. It wasn't. She had a wedding and had someone else walk her down the aisle. Her, now, husband never communicated with us (we live 2,000 miles way), never introduced himself to us even by phone and hasn't to this day. I finally remonstrated with my daughter about the total lack of courtesy and the disrespect on both their parts and now I'm not burdened with communications from either of them. They're expecting a child in August.
So it goes. I'm still a traditionalist and I'm not going to lower my standards of proper deportment for anyone. Too many already have. I'm standing firm.
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