When looking for somone to be serious with, how important are their religious beleifs? (marriages, husband)
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Great thread!! I'm Christian and my bf was raised in a Christian and Muslim household but he considers himself a non-practicing Muslim. We have been dating almost a year now. We have many interesting conversation regarding God, religion, scripture, etc.. I don't press my beliefs on him (and he doesn't on me eithet) however I find it rather interesting that he appears to lean toward Christianity more than anything. He has gone to my church with me on several occassions and I don't force him to go. Sometimes he just says he will meet me there or he'll even take me. The people know him at church and they are nice to him. Sometimes it seems he is really into what the minister is preaching about...again, no pressure from me.
We have talked about a future together i.e. marriage and kids and I have asked what religion the children will be and he has said, the religion that their mother follow.
Years ago, I would have never dated a man that was not of the same religion but life has a way to teaching you to see things differently. My bf is an awesome man and I couldn't have asked for anyone better.
Respect is what's important. Some people can and do respect others who do not hold the same religious beliefs as them. Some people cannot and do not. The second category does not represent people I'd prefer to spend time with, let alone date.
I'm a lifelong member of a pretty liberal, tolerant, mainline protestant, non-evangelical Christian church. I consider my faith to be personal, and am not much for witnessing/proselytizing, etc., and never really experienced that stuff in my church. If somebody asks me about my religion, I'll talk to them about it, but I don't ordinarily bring it up unprompted.
My boyfriend of several years is a lapsed Catholic who struggles with faith, and has variously considered himself to be atheist, agnostic, and spiritual but not religious throughout his adult life. He is the first to admit that he's not sure what he believes, if anything.
None the less, we do fine. My only real issue with religion and others are that I find people who ridicule the beliefs of others to be rude and offensive.
This describes my beliefs almost perfectly--no reason to write it again.
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Originally Posted by Opsimathia
I voted not important to me. I was raised Christan and taught to love all gods creatures without judgement. And I personally don't think any religion is wrong in the right hands. Its the zealots that mess things up and twist the words to reflect what the want to. No god tells you to blow people up or hate gay people. The spiritual struggle is supposed to be contained within. Not spat out as caustic hate on others.
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Originally Posted by Jefetio
Very important, but maybe now how you'd think
I'm a christian, and I could get serious with an atheist, a jew, agnostic, "nature-lover" or whatever. I could never get serious with someone who was entrenched and fundamental in their beliefs though.
I'd be the same way and more likely to be with an agnostic than an evangelical Christian--I've found that I have questions about my faith that go far beyond what most of them seem to be willing to tolerate. I'm not bashing their beliefs but I just can't relate.
I also don't think I could be with an atheist, because atheism seems just as intolerant of questions as a fundamentalist of any faith and most atheists that I've met don't seem to be willing to discuss religion at all unless it's to put it down and I feel a deep need to discuss these things with a partner.
Well I guess that I've talked myself round to admitting that I'd most likely be with someone who is not sure what he believes--lots of fodder for conversations.
Same, I'm not a fundamentalist Christian, and don't identify much with those who I've met. Some people think that all those who consider themselves Christian are fundamentalist and/or evangelicals, but my experience doesn't really support that. Some people think that all churchgoers are socially and politically conservative, but, again, this hasn't been my personal experience with my church, either. Some people think that it's bit possible to be Christian and respect the views of other religions or world views...again, not reflective of my experience.
Same, I'm not a fundamentalist Christian, and don't identify much with those who I've met. Some people think that all those who consider themselves Christian are fundamentalist and/or evangelicals, but my experience doesn't really support that. Some people think that all churchgoers are socially and politically conservative, but, again, this hasn't been my personal experience with my church, either. Some people think that it's bit possible to be Christian and respect the views of other religions or world views...again, not reflective of my experience.
Lol same here...very Christian, but definitely *not* fundamentalist Christian.
Agreed 100% with you and Ulysses: if a so-called "Christian", doesn't walk the walk, and actually practice what s/he preaches, IMO there's nothing "Christian" about them.
(The other irony is, a lot of these kind of ppl will also tell you that "good works", don't matter either -- nuff said )
No . . . they do NOT say that "good works" do not matter. This shows what little you know about the people you judge. The Bible infact places great importance on good works saying "Faith, if it hath no WORKS, is dead" But I might add that works without faith are just as dead
The Bible tells followers of Christ (Believers) NOT to be unequally yoked together with non-believers. Christianity is not a "religion", but rather, God's plan for people to find eternal life and enter into a personal relationship with God.
I often counsel people who claim 'irreconcilable differences' ... based on having almost entirely different values, approaches to life and beliefs. Invariably, the reality is that those same differences existed BEFORE they were married, but, one chose to ignore/reject God's admonition.
If a believer and a non-believer are already 'unequally yoked', the Bible admonishes the believer to stay with the non-believer and seek reconciliation between themselves and God.
The Bible tells followers of Christ (Believers) NOT to be unequally yoked together with non-believers. Christianity is not a "religion", but rather, God's plan for people to find eternal life and enter into a personal relationship with God.
I often counsel people who claim 'irreconcilable differences' ... based on having almost entirely different values, approaches to life and beliefs. Invariably, the reality is that those same differences existed BEFORE they were married, but, one chose to ignore/reject God's admonition.
If a believer and a non-believer are already 'unequally yoked', the Bible admonishes the believer to stay with the non-believer and seek reconciliation between themselves and God.
If you look further in the bible, it actually contradicts the "yoked" statement. It also mentions (which I believe I have posted here on C-D, several times now -- paraphrasing here -- "An unbelieving spouse, is saved by a believing spouse"). Again I posted the exact verses, several times already...lol.
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