Hate being called "very pretty" by a man I adore

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Originally Posted by Yiuppy

So I figure, maybe if I don't adore him, then I won't be phased by his not seeing me as beautiful, gorgeous, or stunning (which are words men use to describe women to whom they're actually attracted). So I presume this guy isn't physically attracted to me due to the wording in "very pretty".

I like to think I'm a reasonable person so I know this must seem very silly, but it's been my observation that a man does not call his girlfriend or wife "very pretty"; they use "beautiful" and "gorgeous" or "stunning," instead of "pretty". These are words men use to describe women they think are generally attractive, but are not specially attracted to them. AKA, the nice way to say "eh you're alright, but not my type."

Would I be correct in believing this man is just not that into me, and to just blow him off and stay just friends?


AddEdit: This thread is related.

The Difference Between "Cute" and "Hot/ Sexy" and "Pretty"

I read this yesterday and thought about it a day because I think it sums up what too much analyzing does for some.
If people view you in a certain light its because thats all you've allowed them to see.
Pretty to me is a non emotional rendition of what I view before me.
From a guys point of view "Pretty" would be the initial attraction I would hope would allow the time to unravel further likes in this person.
One dimensional people don't easily score what they most want in life. Its easy to be lonely in a crowd if no one truly knows you.
If you open up and it scares them away you have done both of you an immense favor.
Life goes on even if you don't want it too and as it does, appreciation, and humble, humility and forgiveness pave the way to view new people in another light. No one does it right the first time. lol
Parallel lives are destructive, chose one and be happy and don't look back.