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Anyone who takes the time to post a complaint about being called "very pretty" has massive insecurity issues which no man will help. So if he said, "You are the single most gorgeous woman on planet earth!" then you'd be satisfied?
As someone who has a hard time taking a compliment, I'd be extremely flattered by "very pretty". "You are the single most gorgeous woman on planet earth!" or "insanely beautiful" or "stunning" would make me think, "what's your game, friend? I will not be inheriting any money, nor do I have a trust fund."
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If your partner can't find you attractive for what's on the INSIDE rather than the outside packaging, you don't have much of a chance of making the relationship very long term or successful
By all means, I agree with you, my friend lovesMountains...I guess I didn't perceive inner and outer beauty, as necessarily mutually-exclusive
One can potentially have both...so it is not a matter of "either or" But of the two, inner is certainly more important than outer, if you have to choose
So I figure, maybe if I don't adore him, then I won't be phased by his not seeing me as beautiful, gorgeous, or stunning (which are words men use to describe women to whom they're actually attracted). So I presume this guy isn't physically attracted to me due to the wording in "very pretty".
I like to think I'm a reasonable person so I know this must seem very silly, but it's been my observation that a man does not call his girlfriend or wife "very pretty"; they use "beautiful" and "gorgeous" or "stunning," instead of "pretty". These are words men use to describe women they think are generally attractive, but are not specially attracted to them. AKA, the nice way to say "eh you're alright, but not my type."
Would I be correct in believing this man is just not that into me, and to just blow him off and stay just friends?
In my dictionary you are correct, I use pretty as a compliment/not interested way of saying I'm not attracted to you. Adoring me less would not change that fact.
So I figure, maybe if I don't adore him, then I won't be phased by his not seeing me as beautiful, gorgeous, or stunning (which are words men use to describe women to whom they're actually attracted). So I presume this guy isn't physically attracted to me due to the wording in "very pretty".
I like to think I'm a reasonable person so I know this must seem very silly, but it's been my observation that a man does not call his girlfriend or wife "very pretty"; they use "beautiful" and "gorgeous" or "stunning," instead of "pretty". These are words men use to describe women they think are generally attractive, but are not specially attracted to them. AKA, the nice way to say "eh you're alright, but not my type."
Would I be correct in believing this man is just not that into me, and to just blow him off and stay just friends?
I really think you're over analyzing the situation. Here's the only question you need to answer: "Is he attracted to you?" If the answer is a resounding yes, then I really wouldn't worry about what word he uses to convey that message. If he's being sincere about his attraction for you, then please take his compliment and stop worrying so much about the content of the message.
not to burst anybody's bubble here but, there are very few women most men find "stunning" or beautiful. Many are attractive, pretty, cute. Think of the word stunning. Really? Very few. sorry.
I agree, and I'm a woman. "Stunning" implies breathtakingly beautiful, striking in an unexpected way because of an unusual mix of features, the kind of woman that dang near silences a room when she walks in.
So unless you're a young Sophia Loren, fuhgettaboudit.
I agree, and I'm a woman. "Stunning" implies breathtakingly beautiful, striking in an unexpected way because of an unusual mix of features, the kind of woman that dang near silences a room when she walks in.
So unless you're a young Sophia Loren, fuhgettaboudit.
Or Angelina Jolie
I agree, a true "stunning" beauty is not very commonplace.
I agree, a true "stunning" beauty is not very commonplace.
See...Angelina Jolie is not anywhere near to "stunning" in my eyes.
I think people are being too hard on OP, although of course she did ask a question and should expect honest replies. Maybe she is used to being called "hot, beautiful, stunning" and that particular compliment was something she hasn't heard before. I am still in need of more information and insist that it's about the tone and the way he says it.
OP, don't put too much emphasis on this. Very pretty is a compliment. Perhaps your vocabulary is a bit broader than his when it comes to describing "attractiveness". I bet he doesn't use the word "adore" to describe his feelings for you. Just something to think about.
I agree, a true "stunning" beauty is not very commonplace.
Wellllll.... I don't consider Angelina Jolie to be stunning, but I know what you're driving at. I think she needs to eat a sammich and get rid of all of those tacky tattoos. "Stunning" to me incorporates health, and she just doesn't look healthy.
See...Angelina Jolie is not anywhere near to "stunning" in my eyes.
I think people are being too hard on OP, although of course she did ask a question and should expect honest replies. Maybe she is used to being called "hot, beautiful, stunning" and that particular compliment was something she hasn't heard before. I am still in need of more information and insist that it's about the tone and the way he says it.
I just think she has incredible bone structure and when she's all decked out is truly stunning. I would classify her everyday look as exotic and sexy, but not stunning
I feel sorry for the OP because her complaint about the guy she "adores" seems just downright petty.
I'm with the men on this one, what's a guy supposed to do when women like our OP can make it so hard just to be nice??
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But of the two, inner is certainly more important than outer, if you have to choose 
