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Hence, the reason why I wrote that last line. Many american couples work that way where the man takes care of her expenses, the bills, her entertainment, going out, and so on while she keeps the money for herself. Hey, each couple does as they like .
but you say it in a coniving way, hence her response
I just think it's odd that a grown adult person is unwilling to pay bills. I don't know her situation, maybe she is some kind of housewife(in which case it's understandable) but if two persons live together and both have jobs it's quite odd if one person pays for absolutley everything. What's the other persons excuse? "But I don't wanna pay for anything!!"?
a lot of marriages the money is pooled by both working people, so essentially they spend 'their' money not his money or her money.
To bring this back to topic...There are a few people here who can't seem to get it through their thick heads that every relationship stands alone. Who pays for what is ultimately a decision to be made between the two people in the relationship, and when you get right down to it, it's no one's business but theirs.
To answer the question, if and when I ask for a date, I pay for it. That is usually the third date or so. That is my preference. Whether someone else approves or disapproves matters to me about as much as my next-door neighbor's choice of toenail polish.
People, please stay on topic. Re-read the OP and keep your posts relevant to that. No personal insults, gross generalizations or gender bashing. Thanks.
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I have no idea when a woman starts paying for dates. I have no idea if it is the region in which you live or what, and my bf is sitting right here in front of me and I asked him too.
I had to ask because I NEVER paid for ONE date we went on. Every once in a while I would pick something up and he would tell me I didn't have to, etc.
Well I asked if women ever paid on dates and he said not that he is aware of...
Of course now we live together and are not really going on dates, etc. I buy a lot of the food and I cook all of it. When we go out, even now, he pays for it.
I am by no means at all a gold digger, either.
I keep the house, all of his clothes are clean and all of his meals are cooked, unless we go out. His bed is made when he gets in it at night.
I have never heard of if a man asks a woman out the woman pays for it in all of my days.
I'm with you pikantari. I date old school guys, mostly blue collar. They would never think of having the woman pay. If this is the new trend, then I'm glad I'm old .. Ha ha. And it is not a gold digger thing. I am uncomfortable if someone I've just met suggests an expensive evening out.
To answer the question, if and when I ask for a date, I pay for it. That is usually the third date or so. That is my preference. Whether someone else approves or disapproves matters to me about as much as my next-door neighbor's choice of toenail polish.
That’s good but how do you do this considering how you have said before that you rarely ever pay for anything since guys don’t let you or beat you to it?
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Originally Posted by Pikantari
I have no idea when a woman starts paying for dates. I have no idea if it is the region in which you live or what, and my bf is sitting right here in front of me and I asked him too.
I had to ask because I NEVER paid for ONE date we went on. Every once in a while I would pick something up and he would tell me I didn't have to, etc.
Well I asked if women ever paid on dates and he said not that he is aware of...
Of course now we live together and are not really going on dates, etc. I buy a lot of the food and I cook all of it. When we go out, even now, he pays for it.
I am by no means at all a gold digger, either.
I keep the house, all of his clothes are clean and all of his meals are cooked, unless we go out. His bed is made when he gets in it at night.
I have never heard of if a man asks a woman out the woman pays for it in all of my days.
I guess you guys are really traditional. He takes care of expenses, you take care of house chores.
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Originally Posted by Red On The Noodle
I'm with you pikantari. I date old school guys, mostly blue collar. They would never think of having the woman pay. If this is the new trend, then I'm glad I'm old .. Ha ha. And it is not a gold digger thing. I am uncomfortable if someone I've just met suggests an expensive evening out.
Just curious, are you also “old school” when it comes to house chores or do you rather be modern and ask your guy to also do his part with house chores? That is, old school when it comes to expenses but modern when it comes to house chores.
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Some of these threads make me so thankful I have a thoroughly modern relationship with relatively genderless roles
I wouldn’t really say it like that since each couple does as they like but I also prefer things to revolve around both of us, not just me, not just her, BOTH of us in all aspects of the relationship right off the bat. I guess we can agree on this. How long until a girl starts paying for my expenses? Since we start going out regardless of who asked who or who is the man/woman.
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