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What if she's a real feminist? Some women get offended if you open a door for them.
Rubbish. A lesbian, perhaps...or someone with a huge chip on their shoulder. I suspect someone like that would be very obviously NOT the kind of gal that would even want to be dating a man. Frankly, I have never in all my years seen anyone, man OR woman, get offended at having a door held for them.
This is my first time being asked out EVER by a girl (this is a new girl by the way). Ok, ok. How does this work when the girl asks out the guy? I really prefer to pay on the first date. Is that still OK?
Yes, its still okay to be what I call a gentleman, enjoy!
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These days, it is perfectly acceptable for the girl to pay if she does the inviting. Imho, you should offer to pay when the tab comes, but if she insists on paying, let her do so and don't argue about it.
If you want to avoid any awkwardness when the bill comes, then talk to her at the beginning of the date and say something like, "I'd like this to be my treat." That gives her the opportunity to say "okay" or to say that she prefers to pay since she extended the invitation. Perhaps that would be the best time to discuss it, so that you won't worry about it during the date.
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Rubbish. A lesbian, perhaps...or someone with a huge chip on their shoulder. I suspect someone like that would be very obviously NOT the kind of gal that would even want to be dating a man. Frankly, I have never in all my years seen anyone, man OR woman, get offended at having a door held for them.
Some women do get offended by the idea of people treating them different just because of their gender.
Except on first dates if he wants to make a big impression. And, insisting on paying would be a great lead-in to the next date--if you want one. You can tell her, "I'll get this" and if she insists, tell her she can get the next one. Congrats. Have a great time.
I don't understand what kind of girls you tightwads date.
Any way you slice it....and forget all that 2011 women's lib c r a p...she's a woman---your [some sort] of man.
I'm a man too--so don't think this is me sticking up for the ladies.
What kind of punk goes out on a date--A FIRST DATE MIND YOU-- with a woman and has to debate whether or not he oughta pay for it?????
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I don't understand what kind of girls you tightwads date.
Any way you slice it....and forget all that 2011 women's lib c r a p...she's a woman---your [some sort] of man.
I'm a man too--so don't think this is me sticking up for the ladies.
What kind of punk goes out on a date--A FIRST DATE MIND YOU-- with a woman and has to debate whether or not he oughta pay for it?????
A lot of women don't want to be treated like a princess, to be wined and dined, because in the back of their mind there is always the possibility he is just 'paying his way' towards sex. That might be a jaded view of romance, but it certainly does apply to certain men. I'm not against old fashioned romancing. If you're an old fashioned Romeo and she wants to be treated that way, good for you, but it's not for everyone, or maybe even the majority anymore.
I don't see why some people are so against the girl paying some of the time. I'm assuming she has a job, income, what else is she gonna spend it on, shoes? The idea of the man always paying made sense when most men worked and a lot of women didn't (although sometimes single women did, their income was often a lot less - besides the point anyway). With incomes etc equal for the same job, there is no reason why things can't equal, if both parties want it that way.
I don't understand what kind of girls you tightwads date.
Any way you slice it....and forget all that 2011 women's lib c r a p...she's a woman---your [some sort] of man.
I'm a man too--so don't think this is me sticking up for the ladies.
What kind of punk goes out on a date--A FIRST DATE MIND YOU-- with a woman and has to debate whether or not he oughta pay for it?????
I guess this explains the whole "congratulations" wishes thats being tossed around here. Most of you losers dont get asked out on dates so its understandable for you to make such a big deal about who pays for what...please spare us.
Why should i make a big deal out of paying if the woman insists on paying. If anything it says more about her values. The problem with blokes like you is that by paying you feel it makes you have some sort of leverage or perhaps you feel it makes you more desirable or something...when in reality the moment you drop her off at home, she drives off to my place to sleep. Get lost please. I'm not in the mood to educate you on the ways of dating. And FYI when she takes care of you one the first date....you do something nice in return to show your appreciation...step up your game...cook her a very nice meal, wine, the whole nine and show her by doing (incorporating something she said during the first date...so she knows you were paying attention) and not tossing money around as if it'll make up for your lack of creativity. All these virtual macho men kill me...lol
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. How does this work when the girl asks out the guy? I really prefer to pay on the first date. Is that still OK?
